1 Corinthians 1:10
My dear friends, as a follower of our Lord Jesus Christ, I beg you to get along with each other. Don't take sides. Always try to agree in what you think.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
One of the most difficult life experiences is the breakup of two friends. Whether they were married or not doesn’t really matter, although experiencing the divorce of friends is especially tough. If you were close to both persons, it almost always comes down to a matter of choosing “sides.” At least, both members of the couple and their “camps” usually want you to do this. To truly stay neutral and friendly with both parties is a tall order.
Equally difficult is to be friends with people who believe differently than you about such issues as politics, religion, and lifestyle choices. Even being friends with people who smoke or drink when you do not is sometimes difficult.
Paul is not saying in this scripture passage that we should change our beliefs – or even compromise them for friendship. He is saying that there are many situations in which we simply have to “agree to disagree.” I feel one way – you feel another. We can still be friends and get along – we just don’t happen to agree on this issue. I’m not “for” you nor “against” you – I’m just your friend, and I love you.
If we applied this to a lot of different situations in our lives, things would go more smoothly. In a divorce situation, we could say, “He isn’t wrong, and she isn’t right. Clearly, there is conflict and division, but I still love them both and will continue to be cordial and kind toward both of them.” It may be that in order to maintain your neutrality, you have to stop hanging out with either party. But you can still be kind and friendly and love them both. I’ve lived through more than one election where my candidate did not win. That didn’t mean I stopped speaking to friends of mine who supported the winner. It also didn’t mean I changed my mind and supported their candidate(s). It just meant that I chose to love the person and not choose “sides” in particular issues.
We learn from an early age to “choose sides.” Everything from Red Rover games to kickball has teams that are usually chosen one person at a time. And we learn to “choose sides” in arguments, debates and controversies at a young age, too. But we can “unlearn” this habit. We can make a conscious, prayerful effort to be agreeable to all … kind and loving. We can keep our opinions to ourselves – or at least keep them from affecting our relationships with our friends and neighbors. We’ll have to ask God to help us with this one, because Satan will delight in playing the “human nature” card. But it can be done … and God is more than willing to give us the strength and wisdom for this task. The real question is … are you up to the challenge?
©2010 Debbie Robus
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Daily Devotional for July 29, 2010
1 Peter 1:18
You were rescued from the useless way of life that you learned from your ancestors. But you know that you were not rescued by such things as silver or gold that don't last forever.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
When I was in graduate school, I took a course in Educational Psychology, where we studied a book called Reality Therapy, written by psychologist William Glasser. The primary concept of Reality Therapy is that people have five basic psychological needs: power, love and belonging, freedom, fun, and survival. Whether we realize it or not, according to Glasser, pretty much everything we do is based on meeting these needs.
Glasser has quite a bit of evidence to prove that we do a lot of what we do to meet our needs based on our past. We repeat past history because that is what we know and feel comfortable with, and/or we blame our past for things not seeming to work out for us now. Either way, Glasser’s Reality Therapy is designed to help people move forward and take responsibility for their needs and leave the past behind.
This psychological approach helped me tremendously as a teacher, because so often, we want to say, “Oh, he/she is a product of his/her environment.” And this becomes the crutch for that person. The Bible refers to this in another way … “generational curse.” Just because someone’s parents or grandparents were alcoholics, abusive, drug addicts, lazy, overweight, poor, depressed, psychotic … you fill in the blanks … doesn’t mean the children have to be. Just because the home environment is nothing short of horrific doesn’t mean the child has a free ride to behave wildly in the classroom, at church, or anywhere else. There comes a time when everyone has to stand up and take responsibility for his/her own actions and stop playing “the blame game.”
In case you haven’t noticed, we’ve been focusing for several days on how Jesus rescued us from sin and sacrificed His own life and blood to do so. Here in 1 Peter 1:18, we specifically see that JESUS represents the way out of generational curses and blaming the past. Jesus rescued us … not by posting a bond at the jail … not by getting us into a rehab … not by removing us from an undesirable situation and placing us somewhere else … not by buying us a car, clothes, food, or whatever else we wanted or needed. He did not use gold or silver or any other temporary means. Jesus bought and paid for us with His blood on the cross! Jesus Christ is truly Reality Therapy … the kind that works forever and ever and throughout Eternity!
We need to recognize the incredible importance of what Jesus did for us. We need to humble ourselves before Him and pour out our hearts in thanksgiving for such an incredible gift. Because of Jesus, the “needs” for power, love and belonging, freedom, fun, and survival are all well within our grasp. Because of His sacrifice, all things are possible. We are no longer bound by our past … we are headed for a glorious future in Him.
Have you received the true Reality Therapy? Have you been rescued by the blood of Jesus? Are you ready to have all of your needs met by the One who can really do just that? The past is useless. Real knowledge and peace comes from what Jesus offers. Choose Him today, and get busy truly living for all Eternity!
©2010 Debbie Robus
You were rescued from the useless way of life that you learned from your ancestors. But you know that you were not rescued by such things as silver or gold that don't last forever.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
When I was in graduate school, I took a course in Educational Psychology, where we studied a book called Reality Therapy, written by psychologist William Glasser. The primary concept of Reality Therapy is that people have five basic psychological needs: power, love and belonging, freedom, fun, and survival. Whether we realize it or not, according to Glasser, pretty much everything we do is based on meeting these needs.
Glasser has quite a bit of evidence to prove that we do a lot of what we do to meet our needs based on our past. We repeat past history because that is what we know and feel comfortable with, and/or we blame our past for things not seeming to work out for us now. Either way, Glasser’s Reality Therapy is designed to help people move forward and take responsibility for their needs and leave the past behind.
This psychological approach helped me tremendously as a teacher, because so often, we want to say, “Oh, he/she is a product of his/her environment.” And this becomes the crutch for that person. The Bible refers to this in another way … “generational curse.” Just because someone’s parents or grandparents were alcoholics, abusive, drug addicts, lazy, overweight, poor, depressed, psychotic … you fill in the blanks … doesn’t mean the children have to be. Just because the home environment is nothing short of horrific doesn’t mean the child has a free ride to behave wildly in the classroom, at church, or anywhere else. There comes a time when everyone has to stand up and take responsibility for his/her own actions and stop playing “the blame game.”
In case you haven’t noticed, we’ve been focusing for several days on how Jesus rescued us from sin and sacrificed His own life and blood to do so. Here in 1 Peter 1:18, we specifically see that JESUS represents the way out of generational curses and blaming the past. Jesus rescued us … not by posting a bond at the jail … not by getting us into a rehab … not by removing us from an undesirable situation and placing us somewhere else … not by buying us a car, clothes, food, or whatever else we wanted or needed. He did not use gold or silver or any other temporary means. Jesus bought and paid for us with His blood on the cross! Jesus Christ is truly Reality Therapy … the kind that works forever and ever and throughout Eternity!
We need to recognize the incredible importance of what Jesus did for us. We need to humble ourselves before Him and pour out our hearts in thanksgiving for such an incredible gift. Because of Jesus, the “needs” for power, love and belonging, freedom, fun, and survival are all well within our grasp. Because of His sacrifice, all things are possible. We are no longer bound by our past … we are headed for a glorious future in Him.
Have you received the true Reality Therapy? Have you been rescued by the blood of Jesus? Are you ready to have all of your needs met by the One who can really do just that? The past is useless. Real knowledge and peace comes from what Jesus offers. Choose Him today, and get busy truly living for all Eternity!
©2010 Debbie Robus
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