Matthew 7:1-2
“Don’t pick on people, jump on
their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the
same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging.
Scripture
quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002
by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs,
CO. All rights reserved.
When
I was caring for my Mam-ma Polly, there were plenty of people who
wanted to give me advice. One night, Mam-ma got out of bed to adjust
the air conditioner unit in her Assisted Living apartment, and she
tripped over the bedspread and fell. The result was a broken femur near
the hip socket. As she lay in bed after surgery, unable to even put a
sentence together…much less stand or even sit up – we made the decision
to place her on Hospice care. Mam-ma was 99 years young at the time,
and the therapy in a nursing home to try to rehabilitate her seemed torturous and futile.
The
orthopedic surgeon came for a follow-up visit and mentioned “rehab,”
and I explained why we were not doing this. At first, he seemed
surprised, but as I described the situation, he softened. We had not
come to this decision lightly…the nurses and therapists had all agreed
that my grandmother did not seem to be a likely candidate to walk again.
Mam-ma
returned to her apartment, where she lived to the age of 100 years and
123 days. She managed to rehabilitate herself to the point that she
could pedal around in a wheelchair (and occasionally walk herself to the
bathroom when no one was looking!)…but for all practical purposes, she
did not walk again. I still believe that this was the best decision for
her…and one of many options that “outsiders” criticized as we navigated
the “senior aging” journey together.
It’s easy to be
critical…until it happens to you. I’ve had many people tell me, “I just
had no idea what all is involved (in caring for elderly persons).” My
mother wrote a book about caring for her own parents as they aged (When Heads and Hearts Collide),
and everyone who reads it asks, “How did she know what I was
experiencing?” It’s as if she wrote it just for them. Many of those
who criticized how she handled things have had to eat their words as it happened to them!
Here’s
the thing…none of us is perfect. I know I made mistakes in caring for
my grandmother…and my mother said more than once that she would have
done some things differently, given a “do-over.” But when we criticize
or berate others, we are saying, “I am better than you” …or even “I
could have done better!” We may think we are helping…but often, our
comments are thinly veiled attempts to put down another person and build
up ourselves. And God is not amused.
We often fail to recognize
how hurtful criticism, nagging, or disparaging treatment is until
someone does it to us. So before YOU get hurt – or hurt someone else -
take a mental walk in the other guy’s shoes. You don’t have to try to
figure out WHY someone behaves a certain way…or what they could have
done differently. You just have to love them with the love of
Christ…and leave the judgment to God.
Don’t be guilty of thinking
more highly of yourself and your opinions than you ought. Prayerfully
ask God to guide your thoughts, words and actions. Be known as someone
who leaves the judging to God and loves people right where they are…and
hopefully they will do the same for you.
©2016 Debbie Robus
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Daily Devotional for November 13, 2015
Psalm 37:1-2
Don’t be annoyed by anyone
who does wrong,
and don’t envy them.
They will soon disappear
like grass without rain.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
There are probably few among us who haven’t said at some point of another person… “Man, he/she gets buy with murder! If I did that, I’d be in jail!” For the life of me, I cannot understand why anyone would envy a person who lies, cheats, steals, uses bad language, speaks unkindly of others, or treats anyone poorly. But this is essentially what we are doing when we make such a statement.
I will tell you, I’ve struggled with writing this devo today. Perhaps this is partly because this “lesson” hits me squarely between the eyes. I get exasperated with people who say and do things that are clearly wrong. Sometimes, I gripe about them…and sometimes, I turn and look the other way. I will say, “He’s a good guy – he just can’t seem to control his mouth.” Or I will say, “I don’t like this and that about a candidate…but he/she is the lesser of the evils, so I’ll vote for him/her anyway.”
The Bible tells us that we are not to judge…and as the second verse in this passage points out, those who “misbehave” don’t actually “win” in the end. The day will come when we will all have to answer for what we have said and done. Meanwhile, the misdeeds of others are really “not our circus – not our monkeys.” And worrying about them doesn’t do any of us one bit of good.
Instead, let’s focus on ourselves. There are times when we must speak out and say, “That is wrong”…or “I cannot condone this.” But when we dwell on the poor choices of others and worry about them instead of focusing on our own words and actions, we have failed to trust God to handle all things. It really is a matter of “walking the walk” vs. “talking the talk!”
Look…on any given day, we have our hands full with our own thoughts and deeds. Worrying about the other guy truly is a waste of our time and energy – and a demonstration of dishonor and mistrust toward God. And none of us wants that…do we?
©2015 Debbie Robus
Don’t be annoyed by anyone
who does wrong,
and don’t envy them.
They will soon disappear
like grass without rain.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
There are probably few among us who haven’t said at some point of another person… “Man, he/she gets buy with murder! If I did that, I’d be in jail!” For the life of me, I cannot understand why anyone would envy a person who lies, cheats, steals, uses bad language, speaks unkindly of others, or treats anyone poorly. But this is essentially what we are doing when we make such a statement.
I will tell you, I’ve struggled with writing this devo today. Perhaps this is partly because this “lesson” hits me squarely between the eyes. I get exasperated with people who say and do things that are clearly wrong. Sometimes, I gripe about them…and sometimes, I turn and look the other way. I will say, “He’s a good guy – he just can’t seem to control his mouth.” Or I will say, “I don’t like this and that about a candidate…but he/she is the lesser of the evils, so I’ll vote for him/her anyway.”
The Bible tells us that we are not to judge…and as the second verse in this passage points out, those who “misbehave” don’t actually “win” in the end. The day will come when we will all have to answer for what we have said and done. Meanwhile, the misdeeds of others are really “not our circus – not our monkeys.” And worrying about them doesn’t do any of us one bit of good.
Instead, let’s focus on ourselves. There are times when we must speak out and say, “That is wrong”…or “I cannot condone this.” But when we dwell on the poor choices of others and worry about them instead of focusing on our own words and actions, we have failed to trust God to handle all things. It really is a matter of “walking the walk” vs. “talking the talk!”
Look…on any given day, we have our hands full with our own thoughts and deeds. Worrying about the other guy truly is a waste of our time and energy – and a demonstration of dishonor and mistrust toward God. And none of us wants that…do we?
©2015 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for January 28, 2015
Romans 2:4
Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?
The Living Bible copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
When I was much younger, I worked with someone who was not very nice to me. A co-worker told me one day, “Kill him with kindness.” This was a new concept for me…and I can tell you, it wasn’t easy to implement! But this phrase has stuck with me for decades…and served me well in the process.
No doubt, you have encountered someone who required a lot of patience, kindness and tolerance. Perhaps YOU have been the “stinker” who got bigger and better doses of acceptance and generous treatment than you probably deserved. The questions many ask are…”Why do others put up with this behavior?” and “Why should *I* tolerate a ‘stinker’ in my own life?” And the answer is…”Because it might make a difference in that person’s life…and/or your own.”
God sees potential in all of us. As long as we draw a breath, it’s never too late for us to change and turn from our sins…and the use of unpleasant words and actions. If God is loving, kind, tolerant and patient with us, we might actually begin to appreciate His efforts - and desire to try and live up to them. And the same can be said for those we encounter in our own lives.
We need to seriously examine all that God does for us and see where we have failed to live in a manner that demonstrates our appreciation and gratitude. And we need to make a concerted effort to emulate Him in our treatment of others. Whether they ever change toward us or not, God will be pleased with our actions toward them. And that really is all that should matter.
©2015 Debbie Robus
Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?
The Living Bible copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
When I was much younger, I worked with someone who was not very nice to me. A co-worker told me one day, “Kill him with kindness.” This was a new concept for me…and I can tell you, it wasn’t easy to implement! But this phrase has stuck with me for decades…and served me well in the process.
No doubt, you have encountered someone who required a lot of patience, kindness and tolerance. Perhaps YOU have been the “stinker” who got bigger and better doses of acceptance and generous treatment than you probably deserved. The questions many ask are…”Why do others put up with this behavior?” and “Why should *I* tolerate a ‘stinker’ in my own life?” And the answer is…”Because it might make a difference in that person’s life…and/or your own.”
God sees potential in all of us. As long as we draw a breath, it’s never too late for us to change and turn from our sins…and the use of unpleasant words and actions. If God is loving, kind, tolerant and patient with us, we might actually begin to appreciate His efforts - and desire to try and live up to them. And the same can be said for those we encounter in our own lives.
We need to seriously examine all that God does for us and see where we have failed to live in a manner that demonstrates our appreciation and gratitude. And we need to make a concerted effort to emulate Him in our treatment of others. Whether they ever change toward us or not, God will be pleased with our actions toward them. And that really is all that should matter.
©2015 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for August 16, 2014
Luke 6:27-37
“Listen, all of you. Love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Pray for the happiness of those who curse you; implore God’s blessing on those who hurt you.
“If someone slaps you on one cheek, let him slap the other too! If someone demands your coat, give him your shirt besides. Give what you have to anyone who asks you for it; and when things are taken away from you, don’t worry about getting them back. Treat others as you want them to treat you.
“Do you think you deserve credit for merely loving those who love you? Even the godless do that! And if you do good only to those who do you good—is that so wonderful? Even sinners do that much! And if you lend money only to those who can repay you, what good is that? Even the most wicked will lend to their own kind for full return!
“Love your enemies! Do good to them! Lend to them! And don’t be concerned about the fact that they won’t repay. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as sons of God: for he is kind to the unthankful and to those who are very wicked.
“Try to show as much compassion as your Father does.
“Never criticize or condemn—or it will all come back on you. Go easy on others; then they will do the same for you.
The Living Bible copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
Today marks another milestone for Greg and me. We have officially been married for FORTY YEARS! I know! We can’t believe it, either! We are both far too young to have been married so long (wink, wink!) How have we done it? Any solid, lasting relationship takes energy and effort...and a good dose of grace and mercy (God’s and ours toward each other) - and we’ve had both!
As I read this passage today and thought about our lives together, I noted how this passage has served us well as something of a road map for success in our relationship. Let me start right away by saying that I don’t think either of us has considered the other an “enemy” (at least never for more than a couple of minutes)! But there is some good “meat” here for all of us – in all kinds of relationships. So let’s roll up our sleeves and get right to it!
In the course of 40 years or more together – as friends, partners, or even business associates and family members - feelings will be hurt. Things will be said and done that shouldn’t be. Grace, mercy, forgiveness...and plenty of prayer for the other guy truly can make a difference!
“Treat others as you want them to treat you” has somewhat become our “mantra”. We don’t play games...we don’t keep score...we share everything from general information (no secrets!) to personal victories and disappointments to our “stuff”. We don’t compete or try to keep up with each other in acquisitions of any sort. We’ve never done the “he got a boat, so I get a diamond” thing – or even “she gets to do such fun things at work and I’m stuck in this crummy job”.
We genuinely enjoy each other’s company, support each other in all things, and share our joys, sorrows, and so much more. We have each other’s back! And we show each other genuine respect and care...even on the rare day when we don’t much feel like it. We choose our words carefully and try very hard not to say something that will be considered criticism or condemnation.
My mother always says that “Love is an action, not a feeling.” While I “feel” madly in love with Greg – even more so with every day that passes - I also love him for the many “actions” he performs to demonstrate his care and devotion. I love how he thoughtfully and carefully manages our home, yard, and business affairs. I love how he has embraced my family...especially Timothy, Zola and Nathan. How many grown men do you know who will wear a Burger King® crown through Sunday lunch in a restaurant filled with customers...and act like it’s the most normal thing in the world? And I love how he loves and cares for his own family...especially his mother. I know that he prays over each one of our family members and truly trusts God for their care...and that means the world to me.
Greg has stood by me during the illnesses and deaths of countless relatives...particularly my brother, dad, and my Mam-ma Polly. He sat silently with me for hours and days at their bedsides...he filled in the gaps when I had to be away for doctor visits, hospital stays and more...and he held me gently when I cried and grieved – and truly made me feel like everything would be okay. He always assures me that there is nothing we cannot face together. And when I start to doubt – myself or my circumstances – he reminds me of my faith and helps me find my footing once again! In short, he puts up with me...and I love him for that!
I could write 40 pages, but it would all add up to this...I know that God chose us for each other. I know that He has orchestrated many events of our lives that have all led us to this day. I know that we both understand how vital His role was in our getting here in one piece! And we both know that regardless of how many more years we have together on this earth, this is not the end for us! In large part, I believe that is because we have trusted God’s word and will for our lives...and we’ve remembered to treat each other as we wish to be treated. Liberal applications of grace and mercy haven’t hurt, either!
Whatever relationships you find yourself in today...marriage, friendships, family bonds, acquaintances, church “families” and more...study God’s words in Luke 6. Learn to operate with grace, mercy, and compassion for others...avoid criticism, condemnation, gossip, and unkindness. Truly strive to treat others as you wish to be treated. We give God all the glory for what He has done in and through us...and we are excited about what lies ahead.
Who is in charge of your future? Do you “go easy on others” in your daily living? How you answer makes all the difference in the success of your relationships, your discipleship, and your daily living. Exercising God’s compassion, grace and mercy works...and we’re living proof! Are you?
©2014 Debbie Robus
“Listen, all of you. Love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Pray for the happiness of those who curse you; implore God’s blessing on those who hurt you.
“If someone slaps you on one cheek, let him slap the other too! If someone demands your coat, give him your shirt besides. Give what you have to anyone who asks you for it; and when things are taken away from you, don’t worry about getting them back. Treat others as you want them to treat you.
“Do you think you deserve credit for merely loving those who love you? Even the godless do that! And if you do good only to those who do you good—is that so wonderful? Even sinners do that much! And if you lend money only to those who can repay you, what good is that? Even the most wicked will lend to their own kind for full return!
“Love your enemies! Do good to them! Lend to them! And don’t be concerned about the fact that they won’t repay. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as sons of God: for he is kind to the unthankful and to those who are very wicked.
“Try to show as much compassion as your Father does.
“Never criticize or condemn—or it will all come back on you. Go easy on others; then they will do the same for you.
The Living Bible copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
Today marks another milestone for Greg and me. We have officially been married for FORTY YEARS! I know! We can’t believe it, either! We are both far too young to have been married so long (wink, wink!) How have we done it? Any solid, lasting relationship takes energy and effort...and a good dose of grace and mercy (God’s and ours toward each other) - and we’ve had both!
As I read this passage today and thought about our lives together, I noted how this passage has served us well as something of a road map for success in our relationship. Let me start right away by saying that I don’t think either of us has considered the other an “enemy” (at least never for more than a couple of minutes)! But there is some good “meat” here for all of us – in all kinds of relationships. So let’s roll up our sleeves and get right to it!
In the course of 40 years or more together – as friends, partners, or even business associates and family members - feelings will be hurt. Things will be said and done that shouldn’t be. Grace, mercy, forgiveness...and plenty of prayer for the other guy truly can make a difference!
“Treat others as you want them to treat you” has somewhat become our “mantra”. We don’t play games...we don’t keep score...we share everything from general information (no secrets!) to personal victories and disappointments to our “stuff”. We don’t compete or try to keep up with each other in acquisitions of any sort. We’ve never done the “he got a boat, so I get a diamond” thing – or even “she gets to do such fun things at work and I’m stuck in this crummy job”.
We genuinely enjoy each other’s company, support each other in all things, and share our joys, sorrows, and so much more. We have each other’s back! And we show each other genuine respect and care...even on the rare day when we don’t much feel like it. We choose our words carefully and try very hard not to say something that will be considered criticism or condemnation.
My mother always says that “Love is an action, not a feeling.” While I “feel” madly in love with Greg – even more so with every day that passes - I also love him for the many “actions” he performs to demonstrate his care and devotion. I love how he thoughtfully and carefully manages our home, yard, and business affairs. I love how he has embraced my family...especially Timothy, Zola and Nathan. How many grown men do you know who will wear a Burger King® crown through Sunday lunch in a restaurant filled with customers...and act like it’s the most normal thing in the world? And I love how he loves and cares for his own family...especially his mother. I know that he prays over each one of our family members and truly trusts God for their care...and that means the world to me.
Greg has stood by me during the illnesses and deaths of countless relatives...particularly my brother, dad, and my Mam-ma Polly. He sat silently with me for hours and days at their bedsides...he filled in the gaps when I had to be away for doctor visits, hospital stays and more...and he held me gently when I cried and grieved – and truly made me feel like everything would be okay. He always assures me that there is nothing we cannot face together. And when I start to doubt – myself or my circumstances – he reminds me of my faith and helps me find my footing once again! In short, he puts up with me...and I love him for that!
I could write 40 pages, but it would all add up to this...I know that God chose us for each other. I know that He has orchestrated many events of our lives that have all led us to this day. I know that we both understand how vital His role was in our getting here in one piece! And we both know that regardless of how many more years we have together on this earth, this is not the end for us! In large part, I believe that is because we have trusted God’s word and will for our lives...and we’ve remembered to treat each other as we wish to be treated. Liberal applications of grace and mercy haven’t hurt, either!
Whatever relationships you find yourself in today...marriage, friendships, family bonds, acquaintances, church “families” and more...study God’s words in Luke 6. Learn to operate with grace, mercy, and compassion for others...avoid criticism, condemnation, gossip, and unkindness. Truly strive to treat others as you wish to be treated. We give God all the glory for what He has done in and through us...and we are excited about what lies ahead.
Who is in charge of your future? Do you “go easy on others” in your daily living? How you answer makes all the difference in the success of your relationships, your discipleship, and your daily living. Exercising God’s compassion, grace and mercy works...and we’re living proof! Are you?
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for August 10, 2014
James 2:12-13
You will be judged on whether or not you are doing what Christ wants you to. So watch what you do and what you think; for there will be no mercy to those who have shown no mercy. But if you have been merciful, then God’s mercy toward you will win out over his judgment against you.
The Living Bible copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
We let Timothy choose the restaurant for our lunch after church services, and he chose Burger King! No surprise there...we have really not gone to Burger King for Sunday lunch all summer (although we have eaten enough Kids’ Meals to exhaust their gamut of “toys” for one promotional and start on another!). Timothy wanted chicken strips... Zola said she wanted a cheeseburger. But when the food came, Zola would not eat her burger. Instead, she helped herself to one of the chicken strips that Greg and I were sharing. So Greg ate half of her burger...and I ate the other half. Rather than get upset with her, we “cut her some slack” and let her eat what she would eat, which was chicken strips!
The children had enjoyed a cupcake treat at Sunday school today and were each given a Blow Pop sucker as we walked out the door, so we were not surprised that they picked at their lunch a little. But they ate well enough that we allowed them to share a small dish of ice cream afterward. Yes, aunts and uncles indulge 3-and-5-year-olds...and we are no exception, on occasion. We could have been inflexible and said, “You eat what YOU chose,” and “You didn’t finish every bite, so no ice cream today!” But we were “merciful” and considered all of the factors as we made our decisions and reacted without over-reacting.
It may be a stretch to see how this relates to our everyday lives as Christians, but let’s break this down:
Ask yourself how you would feel if you thought someone was judging YOU...because someone probably is! Will they see a person who operates in grace and mercy toward others...a person who is kind and compassionate and loves others as Jesus did? Or will they see someone who is quick to accuse and react...someone who refuses to consider the possibility that others might have extenuating circumstances or situations that cause them to behave in a certain manner. Figure out how you want God to treat you...and treat others the same way. Sometimes, all it takes is the offer of “a small dish of ice cream” to share God’s healing mercy with others. What flavor will you be serving?
©2014 Debbie Robus
You will be judged on whether or not you are doing what Christ wants you to. So watch what you do and what you think; for there will be no mercy to those who have shown no mercy. But if you have been merciful, then God’s mercy toward you will win out over his judgment against you.
The Living Bible copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
We let Timothy choose the restaurant for our lunch after church services, and he chose Burger King! No surprise there...we have really not gone to Burger King for Sunday lunch all summer (although we have eaten enough Kids’ Meals to exhaust their gamut of “toys” for one promotional and start on another!). Timothy wanted chicken strips... Zola said she wanted a cheeseburger. But when the food came, Zola would not eat her burger. Instead, she helped herself to one of the chicken strips that Greg and I were sharing. So Greg ate half of her burger...and I ate the other half. Rather than get upset with her, we “cut her some slack” and let her eat what she would eat, which was chicken strips!
The children had enjoyed a cupcake treat at Sunday school today and were each given a Blow Pop sucker as we walked out the door, so we were not surprised that they picked at their lunch a little. But they ate well enough that we allowed them to share a small dish of ice cream afterward. Yes, aunts and uncles indulge 3-and-5-year-olds...and we are no exception, on occasion. We could have been inflexible and said, “You eat what YOU chose,” and “You didn’t finish every bite, so no ice cream today!” But we were “merciful” and considered all of the factors as we made our decisions and reacted without over-reacting.
It may be a stretch to see how this relates to our everyday lives as Christians, but let’s break this down:
- We don’t always know all of the circumstances in another person’s life. The woman who snapped at you as she rang up your purchases in the grocery check-out line may have been up all night with a sick or fussy baby. A friend may not return calls because his car broke down, and the tow and repairs were more than expected – or easily afforded – and answering a message about last night’s game or next week’s poker party may be the furthest thing on the radar!
- The person who repeatedly declines your invitations to go out to eat or get together may be strapped for cash and embarrassed to admit it. The friend who never reciprocates and invites you to her house may be ashamed of its condition and how little she has (materially) in comparison to others.
- The person who acts all nervous and flustered at church may be dealing with marital problems, an aging parent, or children who can’t seem to stay out of trouble. The co-worker who says she can help you with a project, then changes her mind mid-stream and “bugs out” on you may genuinely be “flaky” – or she may be dealing with health issues, family troubles, or bills that she has no clue how she will pay and a boss who is harassing her to work harder and faster.
Ask yourself how you would feel if you thought someone was judging YOU...because someone probably is! Will they see a person who operates in grace and mercy toward others...a person who is kind and compassionate and loves others as Jesus did? Or will they see someone who is quick to accuse and react...someone who refuses to consider the possibility that others might have extenuating circumstances or situations that cause them to behave in a certain manner. Figure out how you want God to treat you...and treat others the same way. Sometimes, all it takes is the offer of “a small dish of ice cream” to share God’s healing mercy with others. What flavor will you be serving?
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for April 7, 2014
Matthew 18:21-25
At that point Peter got up the nerve to ask, “Master, how many times do I forgive a brother or sister who hurts me? Seven?”
Jesus replied, “Seven! Hardly. Try seventy times seven.
“The kingdom of God is like a king who decided to square accounts with his servants. As he got under way, one servant was brought before him who had run up a debt of a hundred thousand dollars. He couldn’t pay up, so the king ordered the man, along with his wife, children, and goods, to be auctioned off at the slave market.
“The poor wretch threw himself at the king’s feet and begged, ‘Give me a chance and I’ll pay it all back.’ Touched by his plea, the king let him off, erasing the debt.
“The servant was no sooner out of the room when he came upon one of his fellow servants who owed him ten dollars. He seized him by the throat and demanded, ‘Pay up. Now!’
“The poor wretch threw himself down and begged, ‘Give me a chance and I’ll pay it all back.’ But he wouldn’t do it. He had him arrested and put in jail until the debt was paid. When the other servants saw this going on, they were outraged and brought a detailed report to the king.
“The king summoned the man and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave your entire debt when you begged me for mercy. Shouldn’t you be compelled to be merciful to your fellow servant who asked for mercy?’ The king was furious and put the screws to the man until he paid back his entire debt. And that’s exactly what my Father in heaven is going to do to each one of you who doesn’t forgive unconditionally anyone who asks for mercy.”
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
My mom was telling me about attending a performance of “Jonah” at the Sight & Sound Theater in Branson, Missouri. This larger-than-life theatrical presentation of the story of Jonah is receiving rave reviews from all who see it. Mother described the special effects and the over-the-top scenery. And then she said “At the end when Jonah is so angry because God has forgiven the people of Nineveh - and the fact that his shade tree withered - Jesus appears and tells Jonah that He went to the cross and forgave with love. I loved Jonah’s line: ‘But love is messy! There’s putting up with the failings of others and forgiving and forgiving over and over…’.”
Love IS messy. And forgiveness often requires patience and restraint…and a huge dose of compassion. And all we have to do is look to the cross to see the perfect example of how we should operate. “But if you only knew what he/she did to me!” you may protest. And I do understand. We’ve all been mistreated at one point or another. Granted, some abuses are much worse than others. Evil people do heinous things to one another. But at the end of the day…none of us has been abused like Jesus. Not a single one of us has as much to forgive as He did. And yet, some of His last words on this earth were, “Father, forgive them…” Not only did JESUS forgive those who attacked Him… He asked God to forgive them, also.
Putting up with the failings of others and forgiving – over and over – is hard. It requires not only endurance and tolerance…but also a huge dose of faith and obedience to God. Often, we have to bite our tongue, swallow hard, and say, “LORD, help me…because I cannot do this under my own strength.” God will give you all that you need to show compassion and forgiveness to others. I can’t tell you exactly how or when…but I know that He will.
If God can forgive those who persecuted Jesus… if JESUS can forgive them…can’t we forgive those who come against us? Who do you need to reach out to with the love and compassion of Christ? Isn’t today a good day to begin?
©2014 Debbie Robus
At that point Peter got up the nerve to ask, “Master, how many times do I forgive a brother or sister who hurts me? Seven?”
Jesus replied, “Seven! Hardly. Try seventy times seven.
“The kingdom of God is like a king who decided to square accounts with his servants. As he got under way, one servant was brought before him who had run up a debt of a hundred thousand dollars. He couldn’t pay up, so the king ordered the man, along with his wife, children, and goods, to be auctioned off at the slave market.
“The poor wretch threw himself at the king’s feet and begged, ‘Give me a chance and I’ll pay it all back.’ Touched by his plea, the king let him off, erasing the debt.
“The servant was no sooner out of the room when he came upon one of his fellow servants who owed him ten dollars. He seized him by the throat and demanded, ‘Pay up. Now!’
“The poor wretch threw himself down and begged, ‘Give me a chance and I’ll pay it all back.’ But he wouldn’t do it. He had him arrested and put in jail until the debt was paid. When the other servants saw this going on, they were outraged and brought a detailed report to the king.
“The king summoned the man and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave your entire debt when you begged me for mercy. Shouldn’t you be compelled to be merciful to your fellow servant who asked for mercy?’ The king was furious and put the screws to the man until he paid back his entire debt. And that’s exactly what my Father in heaven is going to do to each one of you who doesn’t forgive unconditionally anyone who asks for mercy.”
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
My mom was telling me about attending a performance of “Jonah” at the Sight & Sound Theater in Branson, Missouri. This larger-than-life theatrical presentation of the story of Jonah is receiving rave reviews from all who see it. Mother described the special effects and the over-the-top scenery. And then she said “At the end when Jonah is so angry because God has forgiven the people of Nineveh - and the fact that his shade tree withered - Jesus appears and tells Jonah that He went to the cross and forgave with love. I loved Jonah’s line: ‘But love is messy! There’s putting up with the failings of others and forgiving and forgiving over and over…’.”
Love IS messy. And forgiveness often requires patience and restraint…and a huge dose of compassion. And all we have to do is look to the cross to see the perfect example of how we should operate. “But if you only knew what he/she did to me!” you may protest. And I do understand. We’ve all been mistreated at one point or another. Granted, some abuses are much worse than others. Evil people do heinous things to one another. But at the end of the day…none of us has been abused like Jesus. Not a single one of us has as much to forgive as He did. And yet, some of His last words on this earth were, “Father, forgive them…” Not only did JESUS forgive those who attacked Him… He asked God to forgive them, also.
Putting up with the failings of others and forgiving – over and over – is hard. It requires not only endurance and tolerance…but also a huge dose of faith and obedience to God. Often, we have to bite our tongue, swallow hard, and say, “LORD, help me…because I cannot do this under my own strength.” God will give you all that you need to show compassion and forgiveness to others. I can’t tell you exactly how or when…but I know that He will.
If God can forgive those who persecuted Jesus… if JESUS can forgive them…can’t we forgive those who come against us? Who do you need to reach out to with the love and compassion of Christ? Isn’t today a good day to begin?
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for January 28, 2014
Ephesians 5:21
Honor Christ and put others first.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
One of my favorite television sitcoms is “The Big Bang Theory”. It showcases four nerdy geeks who are geniuses in the scientific world…but almost literally cannot get in out of the rain in everyday life. One of the nerdiest is a character named Sheldon Cooper. According to a fan website… http://the-big-bang-theory.com - “Sheldon is the uber geek, he possesses a Master's degree and 2 PhDs, and conducts string theory research at Caltech.” Sheldon is also an egomaniac, and when he’s particularly proud of something he has said or done, he shouts, “Bazinga!” Here are a few examples of “Sheldon quotes” from various episodes…
You get the picture…it’s all about Sheldon – all the time. And for the record, this character’s background includes a devoutly Christian mother from Texas - and Sheldon often makes references to his church upbringing. While he sometimes cites moral dilemmas…such as claiming not to drink coffee because his mother admonished him “not to do drugs”, his focus does not appear to be on honoring Christ – and he most certainly would not choose to put others first!
“Sheldon Cooper” is an extreme example…but don’t we all know some version of him? Maybe you are even one of these people. When someone is sick, you have to tell them about YOUR ailments rather than offer empathy for theirs. It’s one thing to say, “I had that once, and it is miserable”… or “I remember how sad I felt when MY mother died…and I am so very sorry”…or “Losing my job was the catalyst for me to go back to school and start a new career...I am praying that you will find a new beginning, as well.” It’s quite another to launch into a dissertation about your litany of illnesses and/or injuries, or to go on and on about how you are mired in your own grief…or to be flippant about a job loss, disappointment, or challenge. It’s even worse to turn these into opportunities to toot your own horn – or to appeal to others for sympathy or commiseration on your own behalf.
I’ve quoted my pastor several times, but “there is a heartache on every pew”. I am pretty sure for everything you and I think we are enduring in the course of a day…someone else has it worse! Yes, we are important…our feelings matter – especially to God. But the way we glorify God and demonstrate His love to others is to step outside of ourselves…and into the shoes of the other guy…and to focus on his/her needs.
Use the experiences of your life to minister to others. If you’ve had the same illness, you know best how to encourage someone as he/she convalesces. If you have lost a parent, grandparent, sibling or other loved one – or even a beloved pet – you can offer first-hand understanding and condolence to someone else enduring the same loss. Whether it’s a happy occurrence or a tragic one, you have actual, personal familiarity with a variety of situations that equips you to minister to others in the same boat. And in doing so, you honor Christ.
There are an awful lot of “Sheldon Coopers” among us…people who have the intellect and capacity for showing compassion to others – and sharing the love of Christ in the bargain…but choose instead to place the focus of pretty much everything on themselves. Don’t be one of these people. Open your eyes and ears – and your heart – and see who needs you today. Then get busy blessing them in Jesus’ name…and give God a reason to shout, “Bazinga!”
©2014 Debbie Robus
Honor Christ and put others first.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
One of my favorite television sitcoms is “The Big Bang Theory”. It showcases four nerdy geeks who are geniuses in the scientific world…but almost literally cannot get in out of the rain in everyday life. One of the nerdiest is a character named Sheldon Cooper. According to a fan website… http://the-big-bang-theory.com - “Sheldon is the uber geek, he possesses a Master's degree and 2 PhDs, and conducts string theory research at Caltech.” Sheldon is also an egomaniac, and when he’s particularly proud of something he has said or done, he shouts, “Bazinga!” Here are a few examples of “Sheldon quotes” from various episodes…
- Sheldon: Why are you crying?
Penny: Because I'm stupid!
Sheldon: That's no reason to cry. One cries because one is sad. For example, I cry because others are stupid, and that makes me sad. - Sheldon: I assure you, you'll be sorry that you wasted your money on an iPod when Microsoft comes out with theirs.
Rajesh: Do you have an opinion about everything?
Sheldon: Yes.
Howard: And you just assume you're right?
Sheldon: It's not an assumption. - Sheldon: Howard, you know me to be a very smart man. Don't you think that if I were wrong, I'd know it?
You get the picture…it’s all about Sheldon – all the time. And for the record, this character’s background includes a devoutly Christian mother from Texas - and Sheldon often makes references to his church upbringing. While he sometimes cites moral dilemmas…such as claiming not to drink coffee because his mother admonished him “not to do drugs”, his focus does not appear to be on honoring Christ – and he most certainly would not choose to put others first!
“Sheldon Cooper” is an extreme example…but don’t we all know some version of him? Maybe you are even one of these people. When someone is sick, you have to tell them about YOUR ailments rather than offer empathy for theirs. It’s one thing to say, “I had that once, and it is miserable”… or “I remember how sad I felt when MY mother died…and I am so very sorry”…or “Losing my job was the catalyst for me to go back to school and start a new career...I am praying that you will find a new beginning, as well.” It’s quite another to launch into a dissertation about your litany of illnesses and/or injuries, or to go on and on about how you are mired in your own grief…or to be flippant about a job loss, disappointment, or challenge. It’s even worse to turn these into opportunities to toot your own horn – or to appeal to others for sympathy or commiseration on your own behalf.
I’ve quoted my pastor several times, but “there is a heartache on every pew”. I am pretty sure for everything you and I think we are enduring in the course of a day…someone else has it worse! Yes, we are important…our feelings matter – especially to God. But the way we glorify God and demonstrate His love to others is to step outside of ourselves…and into the shoes of the other guy…and to focus on his/her needs.
Use the experiences of your life to minister to others. If you’ve had the same illness, you know best how to encourage someone as he/she convalesces. If you have lost a parent, grandparent, sibling or other loved one – or even a beloved pet – you can offer first-hand understanding and condolence to someone else enduring the same loss. Whether it’s a happy occurrence or a tragic one, you have actual, personal familiarity with a variety of situations that equips you to minister to others in the same boat. And in doing so, you honor Christ.
There are an awful lot of “Sheldon Coopers” among us…people who have the intellect and capacity for showing compassion to others – and sharing the love of Christ in the bargain…but choose instead to place the focus of pretty much everything on themselves. Don’t be one of these people. Open your eyes and ears – and your heart – and see who needs you today. Then get busy blessing them in Jesus’ name…and give God a reason to shout, “Bazinga!”
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for January 26, 2014
Galatians 6:1-3
Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.
Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright ©1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
You messed up…made a big mistake. Maybe you broke the law, or you broke a promise. You hurt someone deeply…you betrayed family members, friends, co-workers. And now you are paying for your offense…in more ways than you ever imagined. The “obvious consequences” are bad enough…citations, court appearances – maybe even jail, loss of a job, getting kicked out of school, the break-up of a marriage or relationship - to name a few. But you didn’t expect the alienation and loneliness that has come with it. You didn’t realize that people would treat you like a pariah…or worse! Where are your friends? Why has your family distanced themselves from you? What happened to all of those co-workers or team mates who always wanted to socialize – at work and afterward?
There are consequences for mistakes…sometimes big ones. And many people do not consider the cost until after the fact. But the Bible tells us that as Christians, we have an obligation not to pile trouble upon trouble. In fact, we are to reach out to those who are hurting…those who have fallen…the ones on whom the rest of the world has turned its back. This doesn’t mean we are to condone their misdeeds. But we are to remind them that Jesus has not left them…and neither will we.
Think of yourself driving down the highway. You are cruising along - maybe even daydreaming a little. You top a hill and see the blue lights of a police car that has another car pulled over, and instinctively, you apply your brakes. You look at your speedometer and realize that YOU were speeding, too. Admit it…as you pass the two cars on the side of the road, you look at the poor guy who has gotten caught, and you shake your head – at least a little. And you probably say, “That easily could have been me.”
See, this is the thing. We are all one misstep away from needing mercy and grace from others…and honestly, we are all in need of daily mercy from Jesus – if not minute-by-minute! Jesus would never shun us. There are plenty of times when we disappoint Him – even anger Him – with our thoughts, words and actions. But Jesus never leaves us. He still visits us in the “jail cell” of our guilt and embarrassment – if not literally. Jesus still demonstrates love, compassion, and caring – even when we don’t deserve it. And we must do this for others.
So the person who hurt you so badly or caused great difficulties for others in his/her job, family life, friendships, athletic team – or church group – doesn’t deserve a “free pass”. But he/she does need our compassion…a smile…a hug…an “I love you and I’m praying for you”…and maybe even an “I forgive you.” The person who “got pulled over” needs to know that you still care about him/her…that nothing is too big for Jesus to forgive…and that we are seeing the person – not their sin. If we can do this, at least two things will happen: 1) our act of compassion may be the very catalyst for a change in this person; and 2) we will have helped to set the stage for our own mercy and understanding if/when we need it.
As this scripture points out, none of us is “that important!” Certainly none of us is above reproach…and there isn’t a single one of us who deserves Jesus’ mercy and compassion more than another. Jesus would never play favorites...so why would we?
Who needs to hear from you today? Where do you need to step forward…be bold…and approach someone on whom others have turned their backs? How will you help someone shoulder a burden today? What is Jesus calling you to do - and will you answer?
©2014 Debbie Robus
Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.
Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright ©1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
You messed up…made a big mistake. Maybe you broke the law, or you broke a promise. You hurt someone deeply…you betrayed family members, friends, co-workers. And now you are paying for your offense…in more ways than you ever imagined. The “obvious consequences” are bad enough…citations, court appearances – maybe even jail, loss of a job, getting kicked out of school, the break-up of a marriage or relationship - to name a few. But you didn’t expect the alienation and loneliness that has come with it. You didn’t realize that people would treat you like a pariah…or worse! Where are your friends? Why has your family distanced themselves from you? What happened to all of those co-workers or team mates who always wanted to socialize – at work and afterward?
There are consequences for mistakes…sometimes big ones. And many people do not consider the cost until after the fact. But the Bible tells us that as Christians, we have an obligation not to pile trouble upon trouble. In fact, we are to reach out to those who are hurting…those who have fallen…the ones on whom the rest of the world has turned its back. This doesn’t mean we are to condone their misdeeds. But we are to remind them that Jesus has not left them…and neither will we.
Think of yourself driving down the highway. You are cruising along - maybe even daydreaming a little. You top a hill and see the blue lights of a police car that has another car pulled over, and instinctively, you apply your brakes. You look at your speedometer and realize that YOU were speeding, too. Admit it…as you pass the two cars on the side of the road, you look at the poor guy who has gotten caught, and you shake your head – at least a little. And you probably say, “That easily could have been me.”
See, this is the thing. We are all one misstep away from needing mercy and grace from others…and honestly, we are all in need of daily mercy from Jesus – if not minute-by-minute! Jesus would never shun us. There are plenty of times when we disappoint Him – even anger Him – with our thoughts, words and actions. But Jesus never leaves us. He still visits us in the “jail cell” of our guilt and embarrassment – if not literally. Jesus still demonstrates love, compassion, and caring – even when we don’t deserve it. And we must do this for others.
So the person who hurt you so badly or caused great difficulties for others in his/her job, family life, friendships, athletic team – or church group – doesn’t deserve a “free pass”. But he/she does need our compassion…a smile…a hug…an “I love you and I’m praying for you”…and maybe even an “I forgive you.” The person who “got pulled over” needs to know that you still care about him/her…that nothing is too big for Jesus to forgive…and that we are seeing the person – not their sin. If we can do this, at least two things will happen: 1) our act of compassion may be the very catalyst for a change in this person; and 2) we will have helped to set the stage for our own mercy and understanding if/when we need it.
As this scripture points out, none of us is “that important!” Certainly none of us is above reproach…and there isn’t a single one of us who deserves Jesus’ mercy and compassion more than another. Jesus would never play favorites...so why would we?
Who needs to hear from you today? Where do you need to step forward…be bold…and approach someone on whom others have turned their backs? How will you help someone shoulder a burden today? What is Jesus calling you to do - and will you answer?
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for January 25, 2014
Matthew 6:14-15
“In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
A few months ago, I got a serger…a “sewing machine” of sorts that is used to finish seams with an “overlock” stitch, so there is a neat appearance and no raveling. Turn virtually any “store-bought” garment inside out and look at the seams, and you will see examples of serging. Everyone talks about the number one drawback of sergers – they are terribly hard to thread. In fact, it is recommended that you tie “new” threads onto “old” threads and gently pull them through the machine in order to prevent having to do this manually. Sounds great in theory… but the very first time I tried it, at least one of the four threads broke – and I had no choice but to get out the manual and try to figure out how to thread this complicated contraption!
I tried several times to thread the machine…I followed all of the manual’s instructions (or so I thought)…and still the threads would break. Greg suggested I consult YouTube and see if there were any videos that could help. While there was nothing for my specific machine, I did find a video for a similar serger…and in just a few minutes, mine was properly threaded, and I was on my way! There was one little missing step that the manual could not adequately describe. A visual image on video was just what I needed. That missing part of the puzzle made all the difference in the world…and today, I consider myself something of a pro when it comes to threading the serger!
In our life with Christ, a lot of us have MOST of the puzzle pieces figured out. We think we pretty well know how to “thread the serger”. We understand that we are called to love God and serve Him…and in fact, we truly WANT to do this! We want to love others as we love God…to meet their needs in His name…to think more of other people than we do ourselves. We want to forgive others in order to get forgiveness from God. But there is still a “broken thread” for many of us…something that cuts us off from God’s part and keeps us from completing the circle between us. For many of us, we have done all we need to do except for one thing…we have failed to forgive ourselves.
Think about how many times you say, “If only I had done such-and-such”… or “I really should have called So-and-so”…or “I should have been nicer to him/her – I should have spoken in the grocery store or in the hallway at school or church.” Do you go over things like this in your mind wish you could have a “do-over”? Are you painfully critical of yourself? Do you beat yourself up for every little transgression…long after you have begged forgiveness from God and anyone else you might have offended? Could this be the “missing step” that you have been unable to see?
You are not alone. Many people don’t make this important connection. We fail to see what God sees…His creation…His child…someone who He loves very much. We do not recognize the full potential that God sees in us…and in essence, we don’t fully accept His forgiveness. God wants us to be humble, obedient – and remorseful when we fall short – but He also wants us to come before Him and ask for restoration…then get over ourselves and get on with it!
Think of when adults say to little children, “Tell me what you did and why you had to go to time out!” Then remind yourself that this is often followed by a hug and a “now go and play” as all is forgiven and the ugly business is over and done. The child doesn’t stand around and say, “But I shouldn’t have hit my sister” or “I feel so bad for breaking that dish.” The child moves on…and hopefully tries to do better…and the parents are pleased with the child’s “lesson”.
What is the “missing piece of the puzzle” in your life that causes you to have a “broken thread” in your relationship with God? Could it be that you are able to ask for God’s forgiveness and that of others – and even fairly good at granting forgiveness to others…but when it comes to forgiving yourself, you’re all thumbs? Isn’t it time to “properly thread the machine” and complete your circle with God? Don’t you think this is a great time to begin?
©2014 Debbie Robus
“In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
A few months ago, I got a serger…a “sewing machine” of sorts that is used to finish seams with an “overlock” stitch, so there is a neat appearance and no raveling. Turn virtually any “store-bought” garment inside out and look at the seams, and you will see examples of serging. Everyone talks about the number one drawback of sergers – they are terribly hard to thread. In fact, it is recommended that you tie “new” threads onto “old” threads and gently pull them through the machine in order to prevent having to do this manually. Sounds great in theory… but the very first time I tried it, at least one of the four threads broke – and I had no choice but to get out the manual and try to figure out how to thread this complicated contraption!
I tried several times to thread the machine…I followed all of the manual’s instructions (or so I thought)…and still the threads would break. Greg suggested I consult YouTube and see if there were any videos that could help. While there was nothing for my specific machine, I did find a video for a similar serger…and in just a few minutes, mine was properly threaded, and I was on my way! There was one little missing step that the manual could not adequately describe. A visual image on video was just what I needed. That missing part of the puzzle made all the difference in the world…and today, I consider myself something of a pro when it comes to threading the serger!
In our life with Christ, a lot of us have MOST of the puzzle pieces figured out. We think we pretty well know how to “thread the serger”. We understand that we are called to love God and serve Him…and in fact, we truly WANT to do this! We want to love others as we love God…to meet their needs in His name…to think more of other people than we do ourselves. We want to forgive others in order to get forgiveness from God. But there is still a “broken thread” for many of us…something that cuts us off from God’s part and keeps us from completing the circle between us. For many of us, we have done all we need to do except for one thing…we have failed to forgive ourselves.
Think about how many times you say, “If only I had done such-and-such”… or “I really should have called So-and-so”…or “I should have been nicer to him/her – I should have spoken in the grocery store or in the hallway at school or church.” Do you go over things like this in your mind wish you could have a “do-over”? Are you painfully critical of yourself? Do you beat yourself up for every little transgression…long after you have begged forgiveness from God and anyone else you might have offended? Could this be the “missing step” that you have been unable to see?
You are not alone. Many people don’t make this important connection. We fail to see what God sees…His creation…His child…someone who He loves very much. We do not recognize the full potential that God sees in us…and in essence, we don’t fully accept His forgiveness. God wants us to be humble, obedient – and remorseful when we fall short – but He also wants us to come before Him and ask for restoration…then get over ourselves and get on with it!
Think of when adults say to little children, “Tell me what you did and why you had to go to time out!” Then remind yourself that this is often followed by a hug and a “now go and play” as all is forgiven and the ugly business is over and done. The child doesn’t stand around and say, “But I shouldn’t have hit my sister” or “I feel so bad for breaking that dish.” The child moves on…and hopefully tries to do better…and the parents are pleased with the child’s “lesson”.
What is the “missing piece of the puzzle” in your life that causes you to have a “broken thread” in your relationship with God? Could it be that you are able to ask for God’s forgiveness and that of others – and even fairly good at granting forgiveness to others…but when it comes to forgiving yourself, you’re all thumbs? Isn’t it time to “properly thread the machine” and complete your circle with God? Don’t you think this is a great time to begin?
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for January 12, 2014
Romans 12:20-21
Our Scriptures tell us that if you see your enemy hungry, go buy that person lunch, or if he’s thirsty, get him a drink. Your generosity will surprise him with goodness. Don’t let evil get the best of you; get the best of evil by doing good.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
Forty-something years ago, when I was in junior high and high school, we didn’t talk about bullies as much as people do today…but I had one. And it turns out that this person bullied a lot of my friends, also. Maybe it was just as bad for them as it was for me, but I felt like I was one of her favorite targets. I didn’t say much about it to my mom, so she probably had no clue just how miserable it was for me at times. When I did mention something, she would remind me to be kind to others and say things like, “People only tease you because they like you.” Today, we all know better about many instances of bullying. We’ve all read and heard the stories of children who were taunted and badgered horrifically…often with tragic consequences. Thankfully, my situation – and that of my friends – was never this severe, and we all appear to have survived our teenage years fairly unscathed.
As adults, most of my friends and I have been incredibly blessed. But the person who bullied us has not fared as well. Her life has had a series of ups and downs…and included some pretty significant struggles. When I learned of one instance, I sent word to her that I was praying for her… that I was sorry for her troubles and hoped things improved quickly. A few months later, I saw her in person, and she was incredibly kind and complimentary.
I will admit… there was a part of me that wanted to scream, “Do you know how you tormented me when we were growing up? Do you know how miserable you made life for me and many of my friends on an almost-daily basis?” (There was also a part that wanted to thumb my nose and say, “Nyah, nyah, nyah-nyah, nyah!” But something told me that either: 1) she doesn’t have a clue what she did; or 2) she knows full well how badly she treated us, and she is incredibly remorseful. I went with option #2.
In our brief encounter that day, it seemed as if this woman was almost relieved – even grateful – that I did not bring up the past. I got a real sense that she may have expected me to either snub her as she approached me - and refuse to speak to her - or to rebuke her vehemently for what she had done. I could almost feel the appreciativeness in her voice and demeanor when I did neither.
In the end, we both came away with a positive impression. Another school friend once said to me, “I guess it must be satisfying in some way to know that her life didn’t turn out all that well.” I told her that nothing could be farther from the truth. We are not supposed to delight in revenge or another person’s misfortune, regardless of what they might have done or whether we feel they “got what they had coming.” I could have even excused this person by saying, “You treated me so terribly when we were growing up…and I have forgiven you for every bit of that.” But I didn’t have to say anything…my actions and my lack of retaliation spoke volumes. I don’t know if she felt better afterward…but I surely did!
Throughout the Bible, there are verses that support the adage that we are to “Kill ‘em with kindness.” Every single one of us will be insulted, mistreated in some way, knocked down or betrayed. Hateful words will fly…unkind actions and injustices will be inflicted upon us. And the Bible is very clear that we are to continue to treat others with compassion and generosity.
Regardless of how much or how little you have…whether your life has been a “bed of roses” or littered with “thorns”, share love and compassion with others. Operate out of the blessings and abundance of God’s grace and mercy in your own life. Income and status do not determine needs of the heart. Give freely to all who are in need, and “kill ‘em with kindness”. Never operate in evil or retaliation. Surprise others with goodness…and you might just surprise yourself in the process!
©2014 Debbie Robus
Our Scriptures tell us that if you see your enemy hungry, go buy that person lunch, or if he’s thirsty, get him a drink. Your generosity will surprise him with goodness. Don’t let evil get the best of you; get the best of evil by doing good.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
Forty-something years ago, when I was in junior high and high school, we didn’t talk about bullies as much as people do today…but I had one. And it turns out that this person bullied a lot of my friends, also. Maybe it was just as bad for them as it was for me, but I felt like I was one of her favorite targets. I didn’t say much about it to my mom, so she probably had no clue just how miserable it was for me at times. When I did mention something, she would remind me to be kind to others and say things like, “People only tease you because they like you.” Today, we all know better about many instances of bullying. We’ve all read and heard the stories of children who were taunted and badgered horrifically…often with tragic consequences. Thankfully, my situation – and that of my friends – was never this severe, and we all appear to have survived our teenage years fairly unscathed.
As adults, most of my friends and I have been incredibly blessed. But the person who bullied us has not fared as well. Her life has had a series of ups and downs…and included some pretty significant struggles. When I learned of one instance, I sent word to her that I was praying for her… that I was sorry for her troubles and hoped things improved quickly. A few months later, I saw her in person, and she was incredibly kind and complimentary.
I will admit… there was a part of me that wanted to scream, “Do you know how you tormented me when we were growing up? Do you know how miserable you made life for me and many of my friends on an almost-daily basis?” (There was also a part that wanted to thumb my nose and say, “Nyah, nyah, nyah-nyah, nyah!” But something told me that either: 1) she doesn’t have a clue what she did; or 2) she knows full well how badly she treated us, and she is incredibly remorseful. I went with option #2.
In our brief encounter that day, it seemed as if this woman was almost relieved – even grateful – that I did not bring up the past. I got a real sense that she may have expected me to either snub her as she approached me - and refuse to speak to her - or to rebuke her vehemently for what she had done. I could almost feel the appreciativeness in her voice and demeanor when I did neither.
In the end, we both came away with a positive impression. Another school friend once said to me, “I guess it must be satisfying in some way to know that her life didn’t turn out all that well.” I told her that nothing could be farther from the truth. We are not supposed to delight in revenge or another person’s misfortune, regardless of what they might have done or whether we feel they “got what they had coming.” I could have even excused this person by saying, “You treated me so terribly when we were growing up…and I have forgiven you for every bit of that.” But I didn’t have to say anything…my actions and my lack of retaliation spoke volumes. I don’t know if she felt better afterward…but I surely did!
Throughout the Bible, there are verses that support the adage that we are to “Kill ‘em with kindness.” Every single one of us will be insulted, mistreated in some way, knocked down or betrayed. Hateful words will fly…unkind actions and injustices will be inflicted upon us. And the Bible is very clear that we are to continue to treat others with compassion and generosity.
Regardless of how much or how little you have…whether your life has been a “bed of roses” or littered with “thorns”, share love and compassion with others. Operate out of the blessings and abundance of God’s grace and mercy in your own life. Income and status do not determine needs of the heart. Give freely to all who are in need, and “kill ‘em with kindness”. Never operate in evil or retaliation. Surprise others with goodness…and you might just surprise yourself in the process!
©2014 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for October 31, 2013
Matthew 7:7-12
“Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need. This isn’t a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. If your child asks for bread, do you trick him with sawdust? If he asks for fish, do you scare him with a live snake on his plate? As bad as you are, you wouldn’t think of such a thing. You’re at least decent to your own children. So don’t you think the God who conceived you in love will be even better?
“Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Add up God’s Law and Prophets and this is what you get.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
This is the day that children across America look forward to all year…for several reasons. Chief among them? Candy! The kids (and some grown-ups!) dress up in cute and/or scary costumes, knock on doors and say, “Trick-or-treat!”… and expect to receive candy to put in their sack, bag, plastic pumpkin – or even a pillowcase! According to news reports, a woman in West Fargo, North Dakota, has decided to substitute “fat letters” for candy as her “treat” to those children she decides are “obese”. The letter will tell their parents that this child should not be consuming sugar… and encourage them to ration the child’s candy consumption.
While I am all for combatting childhood obesity… can you imagine the heartbreak of a child who rings the doorbell on Halloween - expecting a sweet treat - when he/she receives this letter? Who would do such a thing to a child? There is a time and place for everything… and this is neither the time – nor the place! This woman is playing a game - and using unsuspecting children as the pawns. This is exactly the point that Jesus is making in the book of Matthew… that most parents would never do this - and God most certainly would not!
Yes, God is our Heavenly Father. Yes, He has standards… and expectations… for each of us. But God would never play games with us. He would never disrespect us or make promises He can’t – or won’t – keep. God doesn’t lie, cheat or steal. He doesn’t ignore us because He isn’t in the mood to talk to us (as we often do with friends and family members). He would never try to con us or manipulate us. God would never disrespect our relationship… He would never talk about us to others behind our backs, call us names, or speak hatefully or unkindly toward us. God would never slam a door in our face… or lead us to expect one thing – and give us something else.
God offers us the perfect model for how to treat others in His Son, Jesus Christ. Jesus was never unkind or disrespectful toward anyone… not even His enemies. And none of us wants to be mistreated or disrespected. So why would we think it was okay to act this way toward anyone else? This passage reminds us to think about how we want others to treat us… and beat them to the punch!
We are called to treat others in the same way that we wish to be treated – or better! When trick-or-treaters ring your doorbell tonight, give them your best candy and treats. And make a vow to give others your best each and every day. Let the love, grace, and mercy of Jesus be your daily “costume” as you strive to emulate Him in your interactions with others. Savor the goodness of living in a way that pleases Him… as a child savors the best piece of chocolate in his/her bag. Operate in the confidence that you have “represented” well.
Whether it’s Halloween or any other day of the year, operate in the “treats” of God… and leave the tricks and disrespect to the devil.
©2013 Debbie Robus
“Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need. This isn’t a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. If your child asks for bread, do you trick him with sawdust? If he asks for fish, do you scare him with a live snake on his plate? As bad as you are, you wouldn’t think of such a thing. You’re at least decent to your own children. So don’t you think the God who conceived you in love will be even better?
“Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Add up God’s Law and Prophets and this is what you get.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
This is the day that children across America look forward to all year…for several reasons. Chief among them? Candy! The kids (and some grown-ups!) dress up in cute and/or scary costumes, knock on doors and say, “Trick-or-treat!”… and expect to receive candy to put in their sack, bag, plastic pumpkin – or even a pillowcase! According to news reports, a woman in West Fargo, North Dakota, has decided to substitute “fat letters” for candy as her “treat” to those children she decides are “obese”. The letter will tell their parents that this child should not be consuming sugar… and encourage them to ration the child’s candy consumption.
While I am all for combatting childhood obesity… can you imagine the heartbreak of a child who rings the doorbell on Halloween - expecting a sweet treat - when he/she receives this letter? Who would do such a thing to a child? There is a time and place for everything… and this is neither the time – nor the place! This woman is playing a game - and using unsuspecting children as the pawns. This is exactly the point that Jesus is making in the book of Matthew… that most parents would never do this - and God most certainly would not!
Yes, God is our Heavenly Father. Yes, He has standards… and expectations… for each of us. But God would never play games with us. He would never disrespect us or make promises He can’t – or won’t – keep. God doesn’t lie, cheat or steal. He doesn’t ignore us because He isn’t in the mood to talk to us (as we often do with friends and family members). He would never try to con us or manipulate us. God would never disrespect our relationship… He would never talk about us to others behind our backs, call us names, or speak hatefully or unkindly toward us. God would never slam a door in our face… or lead us to expect one thing – and give us something else.
God offers us the perfect model for how to treat others in His Son, Jesus Christ. Jesus was never unkind or disrespectful toward anyone… not even His enemies. And none of us wants to be mistreated or disrespected. So why would we think it was okay to act this way toward anyone else? This passage reminds us to think about how we want others to treat us… and beat them to the punch!
We are called to treat others in the same way that we wish to be treated – or better! When trick-or-treaters ring your doorbell tonight, give them your best candy and treats. And make a vow to give others your best each and every day. Let the love, grace, and mercy of Jesus be your daily “costume” as you strive to emulate Him in your interactions with others. Savor the goodness of living in a way that pleases Him… as a child savors the best piece of chocolate in his/her bag. Operate in the confidence that you have “represented” well.
Whether it’s Halloween or any other day of the year, operate in the “treats” of God… and leave the tricks and disrespect to the devil.
©2013 Debbie Robus
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