Ephesians 4:29
Stop all your dirty talk. Say the right thing at the right time and help others by what you say.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
Acronyms
are a strange phenomenon…particularly in the world of texting and
social media. More than a few people have thought they knew what
certain sets of capital letters stood for…only to learn that the meaning
was totally different. I read an interesting blog post recently about
how people have made OMG a common acronym – and phrase – to write or
speak. In reality, this oath takes the LORD’s name in vain and shows
disrespect for God and His commandments.
We’ve grown complacent -
and in some cases, sloppy – with our language. More and more “curse
words” have crept into common vernacular and are now readily “accepted”
on mainstream television and radio. I cringe every time I hear someone
say, “Oh, my God!” – even when they are doing so in a show of empathy or
concern toward another person. I have made a point not to use OMG or
some form of it in my own conversation.
But more than this, we
need to guard EVERY word we say. I’d be willing to bet that your mother
taught me, as mine did, that “If you can’t say something nice, don’t
say anything at all.” Yet the temptation is there…to criticize…to be
negative…to cut others down in retaliation for their own hurtful words.
We are sometimes moved to lash out and say ugly things when life takes a
turn we don’t like and we feel that God has let us down. Even writing
this, it sounds absurd. God never fails us!
So our challenge
today is to guard our heart – and our words. We must guard against not
only speaking the four-letter variety in haste or out of habit…we must
also guard our everyday comments and language. Make every word count…or
don’t say a word! In The Message translation, this verse says, “Say
only what helps, each word a gift.” Oh, that we would internalize this
command and make it a part of our daily living. I’m going to try…what
about you?
©2015 Debbie Robus
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Daily Devotional for February 15, 2014
1 Peter 3:8-12
Finally, all of you should agree and have concern and love for each other. You should also be kind and humble. Don’t be hateful and insult people just because they are hateful and insult you. Instead, treat everyone with kindness. You are God’s chosen ones, and he will bless you. The Scriptures say,
“Do you really love life? Do you want to be happy? Then stop saying cruel things and quit telling lies. Give up your evil ways and do right, as you find and follow the road that leads to peace.
The Lord watches over everyone who obeys him, and he listens to their prayers. But he opposes everyone who does evil."
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
On a recent issue of ABC’s 20/20*, the story San Antonio kindergarten teacher, Cynthia Ambrose, was shared. The title given the story was “Did This Teacher Cross the Line?”. Ambrose had a reputation for being a strict disciplinarian. So when a fellow teacher came to her in May 2012 with 6-year-old Aiden Neely, who school officials at Salinas Elementary described as a playground bully, Ambrose decided to teach the child a lesson. She stood him before the class and asked her students if they would like to show Aiden what it felt like when he mistreated them.
Ambrose maintains that before she could even blink, a child approached Aiden and hit him, and then the others started taking their turn. Aiden and his mother claim that Ambrose asked all of her students to line up and take a turn at bullying him. And Aiden’s own teacher, Barbara Ramirez, substantiated this claim in court, saying that Ambrose told the children…"Come on boys and girls, let's line up and let's bully Aiden. Come on, let's hit him harder.” The court convicted Ambrose of “Official Oppression” – a Class-A misdemeanor in Texas. Ambrose was sentenced to 30 days in jail and two years of probation, which means that she won't be able to teach again in Texas until at least after this time frame. Aiden’s mother moved him to another elementary school, where he says the teachers and students are nicer.
As a former kindergarten teacher, I have so many problems with this story. It bothers me that a teacher was proudly recognized in her school for her “tough love”. It bothers me that another teacher took a student to this woman for disciplinary action. But more importantly, if Barbara Ramirez did indeed stand aside and let Ambrose line up the students to take a turn at bullying this child, she should be in just as much trouble as Cynthia Ambrose. The other thing that disturbs me is the child’s testimony in court, which was aired in part on the ABC broadcast. Ambrose insists that the children did not line up and taunt or bully this child. But this little boy testified that they did. When asked by the prosecutor how many kids hit him in the back, he promptly stated, “I think, like 21.” That sounds like a “coached” answer to me. I have seen this happen in my own teaching experience, where a parent was so eager for his/her child to be right that the “correct” answers were given to the child to be repeated when questioned.
The bottom line is that a lot of people were wrong in this sequence of events. Many of them were hateful and insulting. More than one person in this story acted without kindness and humility. This situation truly was wrong on countless levels. But this is not an isolated incident. We are all guilty to some degree of these behaviors on any given day. Hopefully we don’t bully others. Surely we do not stand someone before a group of their peers and suggest that they retaliate. But we may strike back in some way as an individual.
We may set about to “put someone in their place”. This can be as blatant and direct as a verbal insult…or as subtle as a quiet manipulation or “cold shoulder”. At least once in our lives, I bet we have all muttered the sentence, “I’ll show him a thing or two!” We all practice our own version of “tough love”… but our tactics are not necessarily pleasing to God.
This story left me feeling very sad for all involved. Perhaps Cynthia Ambrose really didn’t mean for this to escalate. Maybe she did think that the worst that would happen to little Aiden was that he would be shamed into behaving more kindly. Maybe Aiden’s teacher, Barbara Ramirez, was at her rope’s end and truly thought a colleague could help. Maybe Aiden is something of an innocent victim who was targeted and/or mistreated by his teachers and his peers. In the end, nobody “won”. And this is the case so often when we operate out of anything but love, concern, and a big dose of humility.
When we take matters into our own hands and fail to stop, breathe, and ask God to guide us, some pretty awful things can happen. When we find ourselves in a pit, the only way out often appears to be lies and deception. When our backs are against the wall, we frequently come out clawing and retaliating. And God is heartbroken by the messes we often make.
Most young children are taught to “Stop, look and listen.” Somehow, we seem to forget these instructions as we grow into adulthood! This is a good time to study this scripture passage and think about our own lives…to ask ourselves where we need to do a better job of operating in patience, kindness, humility…and turning the other cheek. Talk to God about the situations in your life that trouble you…ask Him to show you how to react and respond to them. Prayerfully consider your actions, and don’t get caught up in the heat of the moment. Follow the road to peace…and let God handle the “discipline”.
©2014 Debbie Robus
* http://abcnews.go.com/2020/video/teacher-cross-line-22530010
Finally, all of you should agree and have concern and love for each other. You should also be kind and humble. Don’t be hateful and insult people just because they are hateful and insult you. Instead, treat everyone with kindness. You are God’s chosen ones, and he will bless you. The Scriptures say,
“Do you really love life? Do you want to be happy? Then stop saying cruel things and quit telling lies. Give up your evil ways and do right, as you find and follow the road that leads to peace.
The Lord watches over everyone who obeys him, and he listens to their prayers. But he opposes everyone who does evil."
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
On a recent issue of ABC’s 20/20*, the story San Antonio kindergarten teacher, Cynthia Ambrose, was shared. The title given the story was “Did This Teacher Cross the Line?”. Ambrose had a reputation for being a strict disciplinarian. So when a fellow teacher came to her in May 2012 with 6-year-old Aiden Neely, who school officials at Salinas Elementary described as a playground bully, Ambrose decided to teach the child a lesson. She stood him before the class and asked her students if they would like to show Aiden what it felt like when he mistreated them.
Ambrose maintains that before she could even blink, a child approached Aiden and hit him, and then the others started taking their turn. Aiden and his mother claim that Ambrose asked all of her students to line up and take a turn at bullying him. And Aiden’s own teacher, Barbara Ramirez, substantiated this claim in court, saying that Ambrose told the children…"Come on boys and girls, let's line up and let's bully Aiden. Come on, let's hit him harder.” The court convicted Ambrose of “Official Oppression” – a Class-A misdemeanor in Texas. Ambrose was sentenced to 30 days in jail and two years of probation, which means that she won't be able to teach again in Texas until at least after this time frame. Aiden’s mother moved him to another elementary school, where he says the teachers and students are nicer.
As a former kindergarten teacher, I have so many problems with this story. It bothers me that a teacher was proudly recognized in her school for her “tough love”. It bothers me that another teacher took a student to this woman for disciplinary action. But more importantly, if Barbara Ramirez did indeed stand aside and let Ambrose line up the students to take a turn at bullying this child, she should be in just as much trouble as Cynthia Ambrose. The other thing that disturbs me is the child’s testimony in court, which was aired in part on the ABC broadcast. Ambrose insists that the children did not line up and taunt or bully this child. But this little boy testified that they did. When asked by the prosecutor how many kids hit him in the back, he promptly stated, “I think, like 21.” That sounds like a “coached” answer to me. I have seen this happen in my own teaching experience, where a parent was so eager for his/her child to be right that the “correct” answers were given to the child to be repeated when questioned.
The bottom line is that a lot of people were wrong in this sequence of events. Many of them were hateful and insulting. More than one person in this story acted without kindness and humility. This situation truly was wrong on countless levels. But this is not an isolated incident. We are all guilty to some degree of these behaviors on any given day. Hopefully we don’t bully others. Surely we do not stand someone before a group of their peers and suggest that they retaliate. But we may strike back in some way as an individual.
We may set about to “put someone in their place”. This can be as blatant and direct as a verbal insult…or as subtle as a quiet manipulation or “cold shoulder”. At least once in our lives, I bet we have all muttered the sentence, “I’ll show him a thing or two!” We all practice our own version of “tough love”… but our tactics are not necessarily pleasing to God.
This story left me feeling very sad for all involved. Perhaps Cynthia Ambrose really didn’t mean for this to escalate. Maybe she did think that the worst that would happen to little Aiden was that he would be shamed into behaving more kindly. Maybe Aiden’s teacher, Barbara Ramirez, was at her rope’s end and truly thought a colleague could help. Maybe Aiden is something of an innocent victim who was targeted and/or mistreated by his teachers and his peers. In the end, nobody “won”. And this is the case so often when we operate out of anything but love, concern, and a big dose of humility.
When we take matters into our own hands and fail to stop, breathe, and ask God to guide us, some pretty awful things can happen. When we find ourselves in a pit, the only way out often appears to be lies and deception. When our backs are against the wall, we frequently come out clawing and retaliating. And God is heartbroken by the messes we often make.
Most young children are taught to “Stop, look and listen.” Somehow, we seem to forget these instructions as we grow into adulthood! This is a good time to study this scripture passage and think about our own lives…to ask ourselves where we need to do a better job of operating in patience, kindness, humility…and turning the other cheek. Talk to God about the situations in your life that trouble you…ask Him to show you how to react and respond to them. Prayerfully consider your actions, and don’t get caught up in the heat of the moment. Follow the road to peace…and let God handle the “discipline”.
©2014 Debbie Robus
* http://abcnews.go.com/2020/video/teacher-cross-line-22530010
Daily Devotional for August 12, 2013
Proverbs 20:3
It makes you look good when you avoid a fight — only fools love to quarrel.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
It seems that everybody has that one family member who likes to pick on kids. Sometimes it’s an ornery uncle or grandpa… as was my mother’s experience. Her great-grandfather used a cane, and he liked to “hook” little kids with it. He thought it was funny… my mother did not! I had a similar experience that has stuck with me to this day.
When I was about nine, I went home one weekend with a classmate to spend time on her family’s farm. She lived “out in the country”, and we rode the bus to her house. My friend had an older brother and sister. Her brother was probably thirteen or fourteen, and his cousin who was about the same age was visiting the same weekend as I was. The two boys decided it would be fun to tie up my friend and me out in the yard with some baling twine. My friend was laughing and thought it was funny. I didn’t like it one bit.
It might help you to know that I am incredibly claustrophobic… the result of a visit to the hospital when I was two for my stomach to be pumped after I drank rubbing alcohol. The doctors and nurses wrapped me tightly in a bed sheet and pushed a tube down my nose to pump out any residual liquid. To this day, I am not a fan of tight clothing, tight places… or even the thought of things that bind. So being tied up and unable to get free was torture for me.
To add insult to injury, these boys produced a pocketknife and threatened us. They were having such a good time with their taunting… they thought they were so clever. But my friend did not find this quite as funny, and she gave them “what-for” and began to scream for her mother. We were quickly released… no worse for the wear. But to this day, I cannot shake the feeling of fear that I had whenever I think of that incident… and it colored my opinion of those two boys forever. I don’t remember ever going home with that friend again… over time, we grew apart and developed different circles of acquaintances.
In some way or another, a lot of us are like these teenage boys or the ornery grandpa. We mean well enough… we are just teasing and/or having a little fun…but we are anything but funny! Here’s a news flash… little kids don’t like to be picked on by adults! They don’t like it when you poke at them or give them “wet willies”. They don’t like to be badgered or taunted… and honestly, their moms don’t like it either! They have to “mop up” and deal with ornery kids afterward… or smooth hurt feelings. And adults feel much the same way about being antagonized.
My friend’s brother and cousin were not bad people… and you probably aren’t either. You just are not thinking about your words and actions. You may not even realize that you are opening the door for a quarrel or some sort of “unrest”. You certainly may not understand that your behavior could have long-term ramifications… cause lifelong hard feelings or uneasiness – or even ruin a friendship or other relationship.
This is a call for all of us to think before we speak and act. If you have a strong urge to retaliate for something another has said or done… this might be just the sign that you need to respond in exactly the opposite manner. If you are unsure what to do, take a breath and step back… ask God to guide your words and your actions… and tread lightly! I guess there are actually a few people who enjoy a good quarrel… but I’m not one of them. When you consider the potential consequences, I can’t imagine that it’s really worth the risk… and I’m not sure that God would be very pleased, either.
So focus on creating peace… for yourself and for others. Choose a path that avoids confrontation whenever possible, and do all you can to avoid a quarrel. And for goodness sake… figure out another way to relate to people besides picking on them! Everyone involved will be better for it.
©2013 Debbie Robus
It makes you look good when you avoid a fight — only fools love to quarrel.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
It seems that everybody has that one family member who likes to pick on kids. Sometimes it’s an ornery uncle or grandpa… as was my mother’s experience. Her great-grandfather used a cane, and he liked to “hook” little kids with it. He thought it was funny… my mother did not! I had a similar experience that has stuck with me to this day.
When I was about nine, I went home one weekend with a classmate to spend time on her family’s farm. She lived “out in the country”, and we rode the bus to her house. My friend had an older brother and sister. Her brother was probably thirteen or fourteen, and his cousin who was about the same age was visiting the same weekend as I was. The two boys decided it would be fun to tie up my friend and me out in the yard with some baling twine. My friend was laughing and thought it was funny. I didn’t like it one bit.
It might help you to know that I am incredibly claustrophobic… the result of a visit to the hospital when I was two for my stomach to be pumped after I drank rubbing alcohol. The doctors and nurses wrapped me tightly in a bed sheet and pushed a tube down my nose to pump out any residual liquid. To this day, I am not a fan of tight clothing, tight places… or even the thought of things that bind. So being tied up and unable to get free was torture for me.
To add insult to injury, these boys produced a pocketknife and threatened us. They were having such a good time with their taunting… they thought they were so clever. But my friend did not find this quite as funny, and she gave them “what-for” and began to scream for her mother. We were quickly released… no worse for the wear. But to this day, I cannot shake the feeling of fear that I had whenever I think of that incident… and it colored my opinion of those two boys forever. I don’t remember ever going home with that friend again… over time, we grew apart and developed different circles of acquaintances.
In some way or another, a lot of us are like these teenage boys or the ornery grandpa. We mean well enough… we are just teasing and/or having a little fun…but we are anything but funny! Here’s a news flash… little kids don’t like to be picked on by adults! They don’t like it when you poke at them or give them “wet willies”. They don’t like to be badgered or taunted… and honestly, their moms don’t like it either! They have to “mop up” and deal with ornery kids afterward… or smooth hurt feelings. And adults feel much the same way about being antagonized.
My friend’s brother and cousin were not bad people… and you probably aren’t either. You just are not thinking about your words and actions. You may not even realize that you are opening the door for a quarrel or some sort of “unrest”. You certainly may not understand that your behavior could have long-term ramifications… cause lifelong hard feelings or uneasiness – or even ruin a friendship or other relationship.
This is a call for all of us to think before we speak and act. If you have a strong urge to retaliate for something another has said or done… this might be just the sign that you need to respond in exactly the opposite manner. If you are unsure what to do, take a breath and step back… ask God to guide your words and your actions… and tread lightly! I guess there are actually a few people who enjoy a good quarrel… but I’m not one of them. When you consider the potential consequences, I can’t imagine that it’s really worth the risk… and I’m not sure that God would be very pleased, either.
So focus on creating peace… for yourself and for others. Choose a path that avoids confrontation whenever possible, and do all you can to avoid a quarrel. And for goodness sake… figure out another way to relate to people besides picking on them! Everyone involved will be better for it.
©2013 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for July 4, 2013
Isaiah 32:1,17
Look, a righteous king is coming! And honest princes will rule under him.
And this righteousness will bring peace. Yes, it will bring quietness and confidence forever.
Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright ©1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
A Facebook friend posted a link to a recent video of a preacher in Tulsa County, Oklahoma…having what was labeled a “hissy fit” before his congregation. In the 3-minute-plus tirade, this man walked out into the congregation and “woke up” a man he deemed to be sleeping during the sermon, berated another young man and his fiancée for their lifestyle and told them that there was no way he would marry them, and singled out a church member who ran the video booth and publicly humiliated him by name. During his rant, he said, “I’m important... I'm somebody...if you loved me and you submitted to me, you'd know what my heart is and my message is - and you wouldn't go about establishing your own kingdom...”
Somehow, I feel like Isaiah 32:1 and 17 must be missing completely from his Bible! Neither he nor any other pastor is the proprietor of the Kingdom of Heaven. While we are to respect our pastors, we are to submit to the authority of Righteous King… not his/hers. And here’s the real heartbreaker about this man’s outburst… my Facebook friend’s comment was, “Oh yes…this draws me to the church!” Can you hear the sarcasm in her voice?
Do you see that in less than four minutes, this man did more to harm the Kingdom of Heaven than he could ever imagine? He shrouded his diatribe in comments like, “I love you,” and expressions of concern for the eternal future of those he was reprimanding and criticizing by name. But any loving intentions or concern were lost completely, in my book. I commented to my friend and told her that nothing like this had ever happened in any church I’ve attended, and I do not believe this man’s actions were scriptural. They certainly did nothing to bring about the peace and quietness of a life in Christ!
Today, we are celebrating our nation’s independence. We are waving the flag, shooting fireworks and reveling in the freedoms we enjoy… including the freedoms of speech and religion. By these rights, this pastor can say whatever he pleases… even from the pulpit. But this doesn’t mean that what he says is righteous or produces peace and confidence in the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ… and our salvation through His sacrifices on the cross.
While you are marking the holiday with fun, food, and fireworks, stop and take a look at your Christian conduct. Ask yourself… “Am I an ambassador for the Righteous King… the Honest Prince who brings peace, quiet and confidence? Are my words and actions pleasing to God – reverential and respectful of His sovereignty? Do they help to spread the GOOD NEWS… or do they make others question whether a life in Christ is something they want for themselves?”
In the middle of what I considered a vicious attack on his parishioners, this pastor noted that he and his wife could get into her Buick Enclave and head on down the road to find another church… if these members didn’t want to submit to his methods. I have to admit… I kinda hope they sent him packing! This is not who and what Christ is calling us to be.
Each July 4th, we hear sad reports of how just one careless spark from fireworks causes physical harm and/or destruction. Our words and actions are no different. We serve a Righteous King… and we should let others know it! We serve an honest Prince of Peace. Do others see Him when they look at us? Are you careful with your discipleship? Do you consider how others will perceive what you project? Are your words and actions helping - or hurting – Jesus’ message? There are sparks that ignite beautiful fireworks… and sparks that can start a firestorm. Which ones are you igniting as a Christian? How you answer makes all the difference! Have a safe – and peaceful – Fourth of July!
©2013 Debbie Robus
Look, a righteous king is coming! And honest princes will rule under him.
And this righteousness will bring peace. Yes, it will bring quietness and confidence forever.
Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright ©1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
A Facebook friend posted a link to a recent video of a preacher in Tulsa County, Oklahoma…having what was labeled a “hissy fit” before his congregation. In the 3-minute-plus tirade, this man walked out into the congregation and “woke up” a man he deemed to be sleeping during the sermon, berated another young man and his fiancée for their lifestyle and told them that there was no way he would marry them, and singled out a church member who ran the video booth and publicly humiliated him by name. During his rant, he said, “I’m important... I'm somebody...if you loved me and you submitted to me, you'd know what my heart is and my message is - and you wouldn't go about establishing your own kingdom...”
Somehow, I feel like Isaiah 32:1 and 17 must be missing completely from his Bible! Neither he nor any other pastor is the proprietor of the Kingdom of Heaven. While we are to respect our pastors, we are to submit to the authority of Righteous King… not his/hers. And here’s the real heartbreaker about this man’s outburst… my Facebook friend’s comment was, “Oh yes…this draws me to the church!” Can you hear the sarcasm in her voice?
Do you see that in less than four minutes, this man did more to harm the Kingdom of Heaven than he could ever imagine? He shrouded his diatribe in comments like, “I love you,” and expressions of concern for the eternal future of those he was reprimanding and criticizing by name. But any loving intentions or concern were lost completely, in my book. I commented to my friend and told her that nothing like this had ever happened in any church I’ve attended, and I do not believe this man’s actions were scriptural. They certainly did nothing to bring about the peace and quietness of a life in Christ!
Today, we are celebrating our nation’s independence. We are waving the flag, shooting fireworks and reveling in the freedoms we enjoy… including the freedoms of speech and religion. By these rights, this pastor can say whatever he pleases… even from the pulpit. But this doesn’t mean that what he says is righteous or produces peace and confidence in the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ… and our salvation through His sacrifices on the cross.
While you are marking the holiday with fun, food, and fireworks, stop and take a look at your Christian conduct. Ask yourself… “Am I an ambassador for the Righteous King… the Honest Prince who brings peace, quiet and confidence? Are my words and actions pleasing to God – reverential and respectful of His sovereignty? Do they help to spread the GOOD NEWS… or do they make others question whether a life in Christ is something they want for themselves?”
In the middle of what I considered a vicious attack on his parishioners, this pastor noted that he and his wife could get into her Buick Enclave and head on down the road to find another church… if these members didn’t want to submit to his methods. I have to admit… I kinda hope they sent him packing! This is not who and what Christ is calling us to be.
Each July 4th, we hear sad reports of how just one careless spark from fireworks causes physical harm and/or destruction. Our words and actions are no different. We serve a Righteous King… and we should let others know it! We serve an honest Prince of Peace. Do others see Him when they look at us? Are you careful with your discipleship? Do you consider how others will perceive what you project? Are your words and actions helping - or hurting – Jesus’ message? There are sparks that ignite beautiful fireworks… and sparks that can start a firestorm. Which ones are you igniting as a Christian? How you answer makes all the difference! Have a safe – and peaceful – Fourth of July!
©2013 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for April 2, 2013
April 2 ~ Titus 2:7-8Always set a good example for others. Be sincere and serious when you teach. Use clean language that no one can criticize. Do this, and your enemies will be too ashamed to say anything against you.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
This morning, I heard a conversation on “The View” about children repeating improper language they hear from us. The conversation centered on how you handle this… do you chastise a child for repeating a word you use frequently? Of course, the solution is to refrain from using these words in the first place. The ladies discussed how “we all slip sometimes,” and also pointed out that “less-than-clean” language is now peppering our television shows unapologetically. So the comment was also made that… “Children are bound to hear these words somewhere.” The implication was that “it’s not our fault – this behavior has become mainstream!”
So what are we to do? I believe that we are given some pretty good guidelines in Titus 2:7-8. First, make sure that YOU are not using unclean language… that no one can criticize what you are saying – or how you say it. Don’t call people names, gossip, or pepper your conversations with expletives. We need to all take a deep breath before we speak… count to ten when we are angry… and choose our words carefully in every situation. Yes, there are times when we slip… there are instances when we really want to let someone have it… there are circumstances that make us all want to pull out every hair on our head – and utter an expletive or two! But we must make a concerted effort to keep this in check…and God can help us do this, if we will call on Him!
Lest you think that I am a “goody-two-shoes” or something, let me assure you, I know all too well about foul language. When I was just entering high school, I hung around with some older kids who “cussed like sailors.” They thought it made them look cool, and they taught me every four-letter word in the book – and then some. I would venture to say that NONE of us speak like this or use this sort of language today. While I can’t say that we didn’t know what we were doing when we were teenagers – because we got a kick out of using this language for shock value – we grew up in more ways than one and learned that this is not acceptable behavior. We came to understand the significance of behaving above reproach – and for the most part, we know and do better today. We are sincere and serious… we recognize the importance of setting a good example for others. We also understand that people are always watching… always!
Your words and actions tell the world a lot about your values. The person who has the least materially but presents a neat, clean, well-mannered, respectable appearance and behaves genuinely and honorably gives others far less to discuss and/or criticize than the “wealthiest” person who spews garbage and acts dishonestly and with condescension or disrespect. Our challenge as Christ’s disciples is to behave in such a way that our “enemies” would be ashamed to criticize us. How are you doing? Are there areas in which you can improve? Are you taking this walk with Christ seriously and leading by example? Isn’t it time you did?
©2013 Debbie Robus
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
This morning, I heard a conversation on “The View” about children repeating improper language they hear from us. The conversation centered on how you handle this… do you chastise a child for repeating a word you use frequently? Of course, the solution is to refrain from using these words in the first place. The ladies discussed how “we all slip sometimes,” and also pointed out that “less-than-clean” language is now peppering our television shows unapologetically. So the comment was also made that… “Children are bound to hear these words somewhere.” The implication was that “it’s not our fault – this behavior has become mainstream!”
So what are we to do? I believe that we are given some pretty good guidelines in Titus 2:7-8. First, make sure that YOU are not using unclean language… that no one can criticize what you are saying – or how you say it. Don’t call people names, gossip, or pepper your conversations with expletives. We need to all take a deep breath before we speak… count to ten when we are angry… and choose our words carefully in every situation. Yes, there are times when we slip… there are instances when we really want to let someone have it… there are circumstances that make us all want to pull out every hair on our head – and utter an expletive or two! But we must make a concerted effort to keep this in check…and God can help us do this, if we will call on Him!
Lest you think that I am a “goody-two-shoes” or something, let me assure you, I know all too well about foul language. When I was just entering high school, I hung around with some older kids who “cussed like sailors.” They thought it made them look cool, and they taught me every four-letter word in the book – and then some. I would venture to say that NONE of us speak like this or use this sort of language today. While I can’t say that we didn’t know what we were doing when we were teenagers – because we got a kick out of using this language for shock value – we grew up in more ways than one and learned that this is not acceptable behavior. We came to understand the significance of behaving above reproach – and for the most part, we know and do better today. We are sincere and serious… we recognize the importance of setting a good example for others. We also understand that people are always watching… always!
Your words and actions tell the world a lot about your values. The person who has the least materially but presents a neat, clean, well-mannered, respectable appearance and behaves genuinely and honorably gives others far less to discuss and/or criticize than the “wealthiest” person who spews garbage and acts dishonestly and with condescension or disrespect. Our challenge as Christ’s disciples is to behave in such a way that our “enemies” would be ashamed to criticize us. How are you doing? Are there areas in which you can improve? Are you taking this walk with Christ seriously and leading by example? Isn’t it time you did?
©2013 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for November 15, 2012
Matthew 3:33-37
“If you grow a healthy tree, you’ll pick healthy fruit. If you grow a diseased tree, you’ll pick worm-eaten fruit. The fruit tells you about the tree.
“You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
Several years ago, the father of a friend of mine passed away suddenly. My friend was understandably devastated. He was in his twenties at the time, and his dad had died at a very young age. At the funeral, a fellow church member approached my grieving friend and said, “It’s going to get a whole lot worse before it gets better.” I am fairly certain this person meant well… but those words rang in my friend’s ear… and some ten years later, I still remember the look on his face as he told me all of this. There are times when words truly can be our damnation. In other words, sometimes we should keep our thoughts to ourselves!
Whether this person meant to be helpful or not, his words were reckless. And we so often do this. Teachers ask children why they cannot make good grades or conduct themselves like their older brother or sister, not realizing the stress and pressure that this puts on a kid to live up to someone else’s expectations… real or imaginary. A single comment made to someone about an aspect of his/her appearance can scar them for life. Forever and a day that person will worry about his/her big nose, crooked teeth, crazy cow-lick, or toothpick legs. Unkind nicknames can haunt a person for years… or a lifetime.
Continual talk of sickness can actually make you sick. There are even those who believe that if you talk about getting a disease – like cancer – often and long enough, you can manifest this into your life. The late Rev. John Osteen, father to Joel Osteen, wrote a booklet entitled, “There is a Miracle In Your Mouth.” You can order a copy from http://amazon.com. Rev. Osteen outlines through scripture how we speak both negativity and positive outcomes into our lives… and how our words have a profound effect on the direction we take each day.
Today, Joel Osteen is a champion of speaking good things into your life and the lives of others. He suggests that we get up every day, look in the mirror, and say, “I am valuable. I am loved. God has a great plan for my life.” Instead, most of us get up, look at our image in the mirror and groan at the new wrinkle, or the pimple that showed up overnight, our receding hairline, the extra strands of gray, or something that disappoints us. And let’s be honest, this sets in motion what is at least a subconscious negative attitude… if not an outright bad mood for the day.
My challenge for each of us is to consider our words. Do we speak as if we are valued by God and he has great plans for our life? Do we offer encouragement and hope to others? Or are we continually negative, careless, and hurtful with our words? Are our words those of salvation or damnation?
Joel Osteen says, “If you can change your words, you can change your world.” Are you willing to change today?
©2012 Debbie Robus
“If you grow a healthy tree, you’ll pick healthy fruit. If you grow a diseased tree, you’ll pick worm-eaten fruit. The fruit tells you about the tree.
“You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
Several years ago, the father of a friend of mine passed away suddenly. My friend was understandably devastated. He was in his twenties at the time, and his dad had died at a very young age. At the funeral, a fellow church member approached my grieving friend and said, “It’s going to get a whole lot worse before it gets better.” I am fairly certain this person meant well… but those words rang in my friend’s ear… and some ten years later, I still remember the look on his face as he told me all of this. There are times when words truly can be our damnation. In other words, sometimes we should keep our thoughts to ourselves!
Whether this person meant to be helpful or not, his words were reckless. And we so often do this. Teachers ask children why they cannot make good grades or conduct themselves like their older brother or sister, not realizing the stress and pressure that this puts on a kid to live up to someone else’s expectations… real or imaginary. A single comment made to someone about an aspect of his/her appearance can scar them for life. Forever and a day that person will worry about his/her big nose, crooked teeth, crazy cow-lick, or toothpick legs. Unkind nicknames can haunt a person for years… or a lifetime.
Continual talk of sickness can actually make you sick. There are even those who believe that if you talk about getting a disease – like cancer – often and long enough, you can manifest this into your life. The late Rev. John Osteen, father to Joel Osteen, wrote a booklet entitled, “There is a Miracle In Your Mouth.” You can order a copy from http://amazon.com. Rev. Osteen outlines through scripture how we speak both negativity and positive outcomes into our lives… and how our words have a profound effect on the direction we take each day.
Today, Joel Osteen is a champion of speaking good things into your life and the lives of others. He suggests that we get up every day, look in the mirror, and say, “I am valuable. I am loved. God has a great plan for my life.” Instead, most of us get up, look at our image in the mirror and groan at the new wrinkle, or the pimple that showed up overnight, our receding hairline, the extra strands of gray, or something that disappoints us. And let’s be honest, this sets in motion what is at least a subconscious negative attitude… if not an outright bad mood for the day.
My challenge for each of us is to consider our words. Do we speak as if we are valued by God and he has great plans for our life? Do we offer encouragement and hope to others? Or are we continually negative, careless, and hurtful with our words? Are our words those of salvation or damnation?
Joel Osteen says, “If you can change your words, you can change your world.” Are you willing to change today?
©2012 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for October 26, 2012
Matthew 7:1-5
“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
I was watching a show on HGTV the other night where a couple was shopping for a new house, and the husband complained about virtually everything. He was one grumpy house hunter! At one point, he and his wife were sitting at a table talking about the houses they had seen, and the man said, “I don’t like to complain, but…” and his wife laughed and sarcastically interjected, “Oh, noooooooooo… you would NEVER complain!” Then she began to laugh. This man apparently had no clue that he griped and complained all the time… but he found fault with everything and everyone else!
Have you ever known someone who criticized others for the very things he/she did all the time? Maybe someone who is a picky eater might say, “Can you believe that Jack won’t let ANY food touch on his plate? What a picky eater!” At the same time, this person won’t taste pretty much anything except meat and potatoes! Or it’s possible you know someone who complains about every call the referees make at a ballgame… unless the “bad calls” are against the other team!
Then there are those who say, “I wonder why So-and-so is not helping with this ministry or that one…” when these critics have no clue what is “on the plate” of the other person? Or maybe you judge someone who doesn’t go to church regularly… supports a different political candidate than you… or wears his/her hair a certain way. I sat at the courthouse this week to cast my early vote, and an older man covered almost from head to toe in tattoos and piercings came in… and you should have heard the whispers that rustled through the crowd waiting in line. Someone even said aloud, “I’m not sure I want him to vote!” Really? So, if one of your family members or dear friends gets tattoos and piercings – or does something else appearance-wise that you find odd, you will criticize them and show disrespect – or giggle and snicker under your breath about them?
Suppose someone doesn’t like YOUR hairstyle, the way you talk, the color of your skin… or some quirky personality trait you have. Won’t their criticisms sting? Would people be judging you unfairly to base their opinion of you on these things? What if others make assumptions about you… or point out your shortcomings? How does this make you feel?
This is such an important scripture passage. When we really begin to stop and think about what we are about to say – or even think – about another person… or to another person, we can make two choices. We can decide to err on the side of caution, recognizing that we have our own sets of flaws, quirks and shortcomings. Or we can be that person who (incorrectly) acts better than the other guy – gripes, complains, judges, and basically acts foolishly. Before you can genuinely and fairly criticize others, you have to be sure your own life is completely impeccable… and I challenge you to find such a human!
We need to learn to leave the criticisms and complaining out of our lives. There is no place for such behavior in the life of a true servant of Jesus Christ. Take a good look at how YOU are looking at others, and see where you need to wash your own face for a change…instead of always offering the cloth to someone else!
©2012 Debbie Robus
“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
I was watching a show on HGTV the other night where a couple was shopping for a new house, and the husband complained about virtually everything. He was one grumpy house hunter! At one point, he and his wife were sitting at a table talking about the houses they had seen, and the man said, “I don’t like to complain, but…” and his wife laughed and sarcastically interjected, “Oh, noooooooooo… you would NEVER complain!” Then she began to laugh. This man apparently had no clue that he griped and complained all the time… but he found fault with everything and everyone else!
Have you ever known someone who criticized others for the very things he/she did all the time? Maybe someone who is a picky eater might say, “Can you believe that Jack won’t let ANY food touch on his plate? What a picky eater!” At the same time, this person won’t taste pretty much anything except meat and potatoes! Or it’s possible you know someone who complains about every call the referees make at a ballgame… unless the “bad calls” are against the other team!
Then there are those who say, “I wonder why So-and-so is not helping with this ministry or that one…” when these critics have no clue what is “on the plate” of the other person? Or maybe you judge someone who doesn’t go to church regularly… supports a different political candidate than you… or wears his/her hair a certain way. I sat at the courthouse this week to cast my early vote, and an older man covered almost from head to toe in tattoos and piercings came in… and you should have heard the whispers that rustled through the crowd waiting in line. Someone even said aloud, “I’m not sure I want him to vote!” Really? So, if one of your family members or dear friends gets tattoos and piercings – or does something else appearance-wise that you find odd, you will criticize them and show disrespect – or giggle and snicker under your breath about them?
Suppose someone doesn’t like YOUR hairstyle, the way you talk, the color of your skin… or some quirky personality trait you have. Won’t their criticisms sting? Would people be judging you unfairly to base their opinion of you on these things? What if others make assumptions about you… or point out your shortcomings? How does this make you feel?
This is such an important scripture passage. When we really begin to stop and think about what we are about to say – or even think – about another person… or to another person, we can make two choices. We can decide to err on the side of caution, recognizing that we have our own sets of flaws, quirks and shortcomings. Or we can be that person who (incorrectly) acts better than the other guy – gripes, complains, judges, and basically acts foolishly. Before you can genuinely and fairly criticize others, you have to be sure your own life is completely impeccable… and I challenge you to find such a human!
We need to learn to leave the criticisms and complaining out of our lives. There is no place for such behavior in the life of a true servant of Jesus Christ. Take a good look at how YOU are looking at others, and see where you need to wash your own face for a change…instead of always offering the cloth to someone else!
©2012 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for September 8, 2012
James 3:3-6
A bit in the mouth of a horse controls the whole horse. A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!
It only takes a spark, remember, to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
For most of the summer, our entire state – and much of the country - has been under a burn ban. A drought created conditions that were ripe for dangerous, deadly fires… and sadly, thousands of acres in our state and others have been left in char and ashes. Some in Arkansas lost their homes, but even more lost everything in the states of Colorado, Idaho, and Washington. In almost an instant, families went from living their everyday lives to being told to get out immediately. When they returned, nothing remained where only a few hours earlier they had gone about their day. In many of these instances, the tiniest spark started all of this. I know of more than one instance in Arkansas where the blade of a tractor or mower hit a rock, created a spark, and hundreds of acres were ruined.
One would think that such a tiny spark could be quickly and easily extinguished. Surely the person on the tractor could have jumped off and hurriedly put out the fire before it spread! In truth, this spark set off a firestorm that raged so quickly that nobody had the time or capability to stop it singlehandedly. Even if several people had been nearby to help, I am not sure that some of these fires could have been corralled. The damage was done – instantly. And while these fires were contained over time, the collateral destruction in some cases is almost immeasurable. Family homes can be rebuilt. Memories remain… but photos, personal papers, mementos and treasures – and even family – are gone forever in many cases.
When we speak, each of our words has the same potential as a spark. We can instigate good with our comments… or we can set off a firestorm of disastrous events. And as I have said before, words are like toothpaste – once they are “out of the tube,” I challenge you to put them back! So when we fly off the handle and speak without thinking, we can hurt a lot of people. We may “accidentally” pepper our language with four-letter words, but others see us as someone who has a “colorful” vocabulary (and I’m being nice here!).
When we tell someone how we really feel – and do so with blunt, stinging criticisms – we may be able to repair the damage and rebuild the relationship later… but it will take a lot of work and forgiveness – and maybe a generous heart or two. When we call people names, we have judged them. When we tell a kid, “You can’t do that!” – as in, “You can’t go to college,” or “You’ll never amount to anything,” we have spoken a wildfire of discouragement to that child that may have lifelong ramifications.
I know far too many people who feel that God doesn’t care about them because someone told them they were wrong to ask questions, their behavior was unforgivable, or they were simply not good enough. I know others who were called an ugly name, and it scarred them for life. In essence, our words have the potential to destroy. The structural framework of a person’s life may be rebuilt in time… but often, there are little snippets of the heart that never mend. And this breaks God’s heart.
Here’s the deal… what break’s God’s heart should break ours. We should impose our own “burn ban” on words that judge, offend, wound, and destroy others. We must continually be asking God for guidance before we speak, rather than asking Him to help us repair the damage afterward. We have to be thoughtful and careful about everything we say. Yes, we must always speak the truth… and sometimes this can be painful for others to hear. But we absolutely must consider our delivery and make sure that our tongue is not the spark for a firestorm of destruction… the catalyst for irreparable damage… and a huge disappointment to our Heavenly Father.
What are you speaking today? Are your words soothing and encouraging… or are they rapid-fire and potentially volatile, like a bottle rocket on the Fourth of July? Spend some time with God today, and ask Him to help you control your tongue. Make sure that what you say honors Him and builds up His children… and His Kingdom.
©2012 Debbie Robus
A bit in the mouth of a horse controls the whole horse. A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!
It only takes a spark, remember, to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
For most of the summer, our entire state – and much of the country - has been under a burn ban. A drought created conditions that were ripe for dangerous, deadly fires… and sadly, thousands of acres in our state and others have been left in char and ashes. Some in Arkansas lost their homes, but even more lost everything in the states of Colorado, Idaho, and Washington. In almost an instant, families went from living their everyday lives to being told to get out immediately. When they returned, nothing remained where only a few hours earlier they had gone about their day. In many of these instances, the tiniest spark started all of this. I know of more than one instance in Arkansas where the blade of a tractor or mower hit a rock, created a spark, and hundreds of acres were ruined.
One would think that such a tiny spark could be quickly and easily extinguished. Surely the person on the tractor could have jumped off and hurriedly put out the fire before it spread! In truth, this spark set off a firestorm that raged so quickly that nobody had the time or capability to stop it singlehandedly. Even if several people had been nearby to help, I am not sure that some of these fires could have been corralled. The damage was done – instantly. And while these fires were contained over time, the collateral destruction in some cases is almost immeasurable. Family homes can be rebuilt. Memories remain… but photos, personal papers, mementos and treasures – and even family – are gone forever in many cases.
When we speak, each of our words has the same potential as a spark. We can instigate good with our comments… or we can set off a firestorm of disastrous events. And as I have said before, words are like toothpaste – once they are “out of the tube,” I challenge you to put them back! So when we fly off the handle and speak without thinking, we can hurt a lot of people. We may “accidentally” pepper our language with four-letter words, but others see us as someone who has a “colorful” vocabulary (and I’m being nice here!).
When we tell someone how we really feel – and do so with blunt, stinging criticisms – we may be able to repair the damage and rebuild the relationship later… but it will take a lot of work and forgiveness – and maybe a generous heart or two. When we call people names, we have judged them. When we tell a kid, “You can’t do that!” – as in, “You can’t go to college,” or “You’ll never amount to anything,” we have spoken a wildfire of discouragement to that child that may have lifelong ramifications.
I know far too many people who feel that God doesn’t care about them because someone told them they were wrong to ask questions, their behavior was unforgivable, or they were simply not good enough. I know others who were called an ugly name, and it scarred them for life. In essence, our words have the potential to destroy. The structural framework of a person’s life may be rebuilt in time… but often, there are little snippets of the heart that never mend. And this breaks God’s heart.
Here’s the deal… what break’s God’s heart should break ours. We should impose our own “burn ban” on words that judge, offend, wound, and destroy others. We must continually be asking God for guidance before we speak, rather than asking Him to help us repair the damage afterward. We have to be thoughtful and careful about everything we say. Yes, we must always speak the truth… and sometimes this can be painful for others to hear. But we absolutely must consider our delivery and make sure that our tongue is not the spark for a firestorm of destruction… the catalyst for irreparable damage… and a huge disappointment to our Heavenly Father.
What are you speaking today? Are your words soothing and encouraging… or are they rapid-fire and potentially volatile, like a bottle rocket on the Fourth of July? Spend some time with God today, and ask Him to help you control your tongue. Make sure that what you say honors Him and builds up His children… and His Kingdom.
©2012 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for February 10, 2012
Hebrews 2:1-3
So, my dear Christian friends, companions in following this call to the heights, take a good hard look at Jesus. He's the centerpiece of everything we believe, faithful in everything God gave him to do. Moses was also faithful, but Jesus gets far more honor. A builder is more valuable than a building any day. Every house has a builder, but the Builder behind them all is God. Moses did a good job in God's house, but it was all servant work, getting things ready for what was to come. Christ as Son is in charge of the house.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
I wrote this scripture passage down in notes I made on a sermon series entitled “The Mouth is the Master Key to Life.” If a builder created a mansion for you, but you trashed it on a daily basis, it wouldn’t be much of a mansion for long, would it? If you tore down the support beams and poked holes in the plumbing, the overall structure would soon begin to crumble into ruin.
Now think of your life as God’s building… the one He created for you. Suppose you speak negatively on a regular basis… “I’m no good… I’m sick all the time… I can’t do this or that… I’m not smart enough or rich enough or good looking enough to accomplish anything… I’m a failure.” Can you see that this is like poking holes in the plumbing or tearing down the support beams? Worse still, when we belittle ourselves and others, we are chipping away at GOD! We are saying He built something inferior… worthless… ugly… inept… sick. Remember… God does not make junk!
When we speak negatively, we in essence hire the devil as our “housekeeper,” and we keep him plenty busy! Proverbs 18:21 tells us that “Words kill, words give life; they're either poison or fruit—you choose.” What are your words accomplishing today? Your mouth IS a master key to life. It can also be a key to death… mentally, physically, emotionally… and spiritually. What are you speaking today? Are your words positive… encouraging… uplifting and full of hope and promise? Are you keeping God’s “house” in good order and recognizing what a wonderful “structure” He has created? Do you see the potential God has created in you… and are you doing all you can to speak it into existence?
The choice is ours. Who is keeping your “house” these days? Who controls your tongue… and what are you speaking – life or death? Ask God to show you where you have been using your mouth to “poke holes in His house.” Invite Him to give you strength and wisdom to start repairing the damage by speaking positively and recognizing all that He has placed within you. Give your “house” a bit of an update – or remodel – and make sure that Jesus Christ is your housekeeper from now on.
©2012 Debbie Robus
So, my dear Christian friends, companions in following this call to the heights, take a good hard look at Jesus. He's the centerpiece of everything we believe, faithful in everything God gave him to do. Moses was also faithful, but Jesus gets far more honor. A builder is more valuable than a building any day. Every house has a builder, but the Builder behind them all is God. Moses did a good job in God's house, but it was all servant work, getting things ready for what was to come. Christ as Son is in charge of the house.
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
I wrote this scripture passage down in notes I made on a sermon series entitled “The Mouth is the Master Key to Life.” If a builder created a mansion for you, but you trashed it on a daily basis, it wouldn’t be much of a mansion for long, would it? If you tore down the support beams and poked holes in the plumbing, the overall structure would soon begin to crumble into ruin.
Now think of your life as God’s building… the one He created for you. Suppose you speak negatively on a regular basis… “I’m no good… I’m sick all the time… I can’t do this or that… I’m not smart enough or rich enough or good looking enough to accomplish anything… I’m a failure.” Can you see that this is like poking holes in the plumbing or tearing down the support beams? Worse still, when we belittle ourselves and others, we are chipping away at GOD! We are saying He built something inferior… worthless… ugly… inept… sick. Remember… God does not make junk!
When we speak negatively, we in essence hire the devil as our “housekeeper,” and we keep him plenty busy! Proverbs 18:21 tells us that “Words kill, words give life; they're either poison or fruit—you choose.” What are your words accomplishing today? Your mouth IS a master key to life. It can also be a key to death… mentally, physically, emotionally… and spiritually. What are you speaking today? Are your words positive… encouraging… uplifting and full of hope and promise? Are you keeping God’s “house” in good order and recognizing what a wonderful “structure” He has created? Do you see the potential God has created in you… and are you doing all you can to speak it into existence?
The choice is ours. Who is keeping your “house” these days? Who controls your tongue… and what are you speaking – life or death? Ask God to show you where you have been using your mouth to “poke holes in His house.” Invite Him to give you strength and wisdom to start repairing the damage by speaking positively and recognizing all that He has placed within you. Give your “house” a bit of an update – or remodel – and make sure that Jesus Christ is your housekeeper from now on.
©2012 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for May 7, 2011
Proverbs 16:27-28
Worthless people plan trouble. Even their words burn like a flaming fire. Gossip is no good! It causes hard feelings and comes between friends.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
I recently purchased a box of vintage linens at an estate auction. When I got home, I carefully sorted through the things in the box and washed many of them to starch and iron and prepare for sale. You never know what you will find in a box of old linens. Some things are perfect… practically brand new… like they were never used. Others are stained, frayed, and worn. But most still have some use in them – even if they bear the marks of continued usage and/or abuse.
In the box were twelve beautiful crocheted cotton placemats. The lines and the workmanship were fairly simple but still represented a huge amount of work and care. Most were completely intact and nearly perfect in condition. However, one had some tatters in a small area. Another had a tiny fray. And yet another had a slight stain. In all, the whole set still has quality, and once a table is set with the placemats, the tiny tatters and stains will hardly be noticeable… if at all. Yet they are there, and the integrity of those three placemats has – to some degree – been compromised.
As I pressed these placemats, I thought about these two verses from Proverbs… how poorly chosen words and venomous gossip create a stain and tatters in relationships. Sometimes, these can be mended… the rough edges and tears in the heart can be smoothed and covered. But the stain or tear still remains. The hurt may heal – the person who spoke harshly or spread the gossip may be forgiven. But the damage is done… and sometimes, no repair can be made.
Like the stain on a placemat that can be covered with tableware, hurtful words can be covered… but the “stain” is still there. And we, as Christians, are sometimes the very people who put the stain on someone’s heart or reputation with our ill-chosen words.
Sometimes, we don’t really even know the people about whom we gossip or say unkind things. And maybe we figure that, because we really don’t know them – and they will never know what we said about them – it doesn’t really hurt anything or anyone. But the truth is that people are watching – and listening. If even one person is influenced by our negative or unkind words… that’s one too many. The integrity of our Christian witness is compromised.
Ask God to show you how to control your thoughts before you speak… and ultimately what comes out of your mouth. Don’t be known as someone who is mean or worthless… a gossip that spreads lies and breaks up friendships… a troublemaker who is always trying to stir up others’ feelings. This is not Godly behavior… and it doesn’t please our Heavenly Father one bit!
Be who God has called you to be… a wise, careful, thoughtful person who prayerfully considers what to say before engaging the tongue. In The Message, Proverbs 16:25 says “There’s a way that looks harmless enough: look again – it leads straight to hell.” Ask God if what you are about to say about someone or a certain situation is really harmless… and let Him lead you in the right direction and toward a wise decision for yourself… and for all concerned.
©2011 Debbie Robus
Worthless people plan trouble. Even their words burn like a flaming fire. Gossip is no good! It causes hard feelings and comes between friends.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
I recently purchased a box of vintage linens at an estate auction. When I got home, I carefully sorted through the things in the box and washed many of them to starch and iron and prepare for sale. You never know what you will find in a box of old linens. Some things are perfect… practically brand new… like they were never used. Others are stained, frayed, and worn. But most still have some use in them – even if they bear the marks of continued usage and/or abuse.
In the box were twelve beautiful crocheted cotton placemats. The lines and the workmanship were fairly simple but still represented a huge amount of work and care. Most were completely intact and nearly perfect in condition. However, one had some tatters in a small area. Another had a tiny fray. And yet another had a slight stain. In all, the whole set still has quality, and once a table is set with the placemats, the tiny tatters and stains will hardly be noticeable… if at all. Yet they are there, and the integrity of those three placemats has – to some degree – been compromised.
As I pressed these placemats, I thought about these two verses from Proverbs… how poorly chosen words and venomous gossip create a stain and tatters in relationships. Sometimes, these can be mended… the rough edges and tears in the heart can be smoothed and covered. But the stain or tear still remains. The hurt may heal – the person who spoke harshly or spread the gossip may be forgiven. But the damage is done… and sometimes, no repair can be made.
Like the stain on a placemat that can be covered with tableware, hurtful words can be covered… but the “stain” is still there. And we, as Christians, are sometimes the very people who put the stain on someone’s heart or reputation with our ill-chosen words.
Sometimes, we don’t really even know the people about whom we gossip or say unkind things. And maybe we figure that, because we really don’t know them – and they will never know what we said about them – it doesn’t really hurt anything or anyone. But the truth is that people are watching – and listening. If even one person is influenced by our negative or unkind words… that’s one too many. The integrity of our Christian witness is compromised.
Ask God to show you how to control your thoughts before you speak… and ultimately what comes out of your mouth. Don’t be known as someone who is mean or worthless… a gossip that spreads lies and breaks up friendships… a troublemaker who is always trying to stir up others’ feelings. This is not Godly behavior… and it doesn’t please our Heavenly Father one bit!
Be who God has called you to be… a wise, careful, thoughtful person who prayerfully considers what to say before engaging the tongue. In The Message, Proverbs 16:25 says “There’s a way that looks harmless enough: look again – it leads straight to hell.” Ask God if what you are about to say about someone or a certain situation is really harmless… and let Him lead you in the right direction and toward a wise decision for yourself… and for all concerned.
©2011 Debbie Robus
Luke 12:11-12
"When they drag you into their meeting places, or into police courts and before judges, don't worry about defending yourselves—what you'll say or how you'll say it. The right words will be there. The Holy Spirit will give you the right words when the time comes."
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
Recently I dropped my sister off for work, and as I sat in the parking lot, a woman I’ve known since high school approached my car. She said, “I don’t know if I ever told you, but the card you sent me when my dad died meant more to me than just about any card I received. You said all the right things.” I thanked her for sharing that with me. I cannot begin to tell you what I said in that card, but I’m glad to know it was what she needed to hear at the time.
Years ago, I wrote a book called What to Say and Do… When You Don’t Know What to Say and Do. I wrote this book after experiencing the death of several family members and friends and hearing people say over and over, “I just didn’t know what to say.” Often, their solution was to say and do nothing… and the silence was in some ways more hurtful than if they had said the wrong thing.
My own experiences caused me to pay closer attention to making sure I did not fall into this pattern myself. I began to make more of an effort to send cards and notes to people... cards expressing sympathy, get-well wishes, and even cards of encouragement and thanks. But more importantly, I started really praying about what I said before I wrote the note. And just like the woman who thanked me for the card when her dad passed away, others have told me, “Your words meant so much.”
The truth is… they were not my words. I always ask God to tell me the right things to say in cards. I wish I were better at making sure I ask God to tell me the right things to say before I speak, but I’m afraid my mouth often still engages before my brain does. And once words are spoken, they can be very hard to retract!
Do not miss this… the Holy Spirit will give you the right words when the time comes. He is always ready… his words are always perfect. But we have to ask Him for help. We have to stop and say, “LORD… guide my words. Let me say what you want me to say… the things that will be pleasing to you and helpful to this person. Give me the right answers… the kind words… the best solutions to offer in this situation.” And He will do just that!
I’ve come to understand that the fear of saying the wrong thing is just another tool of the devil. This is just one more way he wants to squelch us and keep us from truly living for Jesus and serving as His disciple. And I am not willing to let him have that kind of satisfaction… are you? Ask God for help in choosing your words… then don’t be afraid to step out and speak up in His name. The Holy Spirit will give you the right words when the time comes.
©2011 Debbie Robus
"When they drag you into their meeting places, or into police courts and before judges, don't worry about defending yourselves—what you'll say or how you'll say it. The right words will be there. The Holy Spirit will give you the right words when the time comes."
Scripture quotations from The Message. © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress, Colorado Springs, CO. All rights reserved.
Recently I dropped my sister off for work, and as I sat in the parking lot, a woman I’ve known since high school approached my car. She said, “I don’t know if I ever told you, but the card you sent me when my dad died meant more to me than just about any card I received. You said all the right things.” I thanked her for sharing that with me. I cannot begin to tell you what I said in that card, but I’m glad to know it was what she needed to hear at the time.
Years ago, I wrote a book called What to Say and Do… When You Don’t Know What to Say and Do. I wrote this book after experiencing the death of several family members and friends and hearing people say over and over, “I just didn’t know what to say.” Often, their solution was to say and do nothing… and the silence was in some ways more hurtful than if they had said the wrong thing.
My own experiences caused me to pay closer attention to making sure I did not fall into this pattern myself. I began to make more of an effort to send cards and notes to people... cards expressing sympathy, get-well wishes, and even cards of encouragement and thanks. But more importantly, I started really praying about what I said before I wrote the note. And just like the woman who thanked me for the card when her dad passed away, others have told me, “Your words meant so much.”
The truth is… they were not my words. I always ask God to tell me the right things to say in cards. I wish I were better at making sure I ask God to tell me the right things to say before I speak, but I’m afraid my mouth often still engages before my brain does. And once words are spoken, they can be very hard to retract!
Do not miss this… the Holy Spirit will give you the right words when the time comes. He is always ready… his words are always perfect. But we have to ask Him for help. We have to stop and say, “LORD… guide my words. Let me say what you want me to say… the things that will be pleasing to you and helpful to this person. Give me the right answers… the kind words… the best solutions to offer in this situation.” And He will do just that!
I’ve come to understand that the fear of saying the wrong thing is just another tool of the devil. This is just one more way he wants to squelch us and keep us from truly living for Jesus and serving as His disciple. And I am not willing to let him have that kind of satisfaction… are you? Ask God for help in choosing your words… then don’t be afraid to step out and speak up in His name. The Holy Spirit will give you the right words when the time comes.
©2011 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for October 23, 2010
Proverbs 10:11
Stay away from stupid and senseless arguments. These only lead to trouble, and God's servants must not be troublemakers. They must be kind to everyone, and they must be good teachers and very patient.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
Lately, it seems like I’ve had one stupid and senseless argument after another with my grandmother. And I admit, many of them are a direct result of my impatience. At almost 98 years of age, things in her world are changing rapidly, and everything I say is viewed as a direct challenge. But knowing when I should speak and when to keep quiet has been quite difficult… especially in recent years.
A few weeks ago, I was driving her to the beauty shop, and she was upset with me over something I had said. She told me, “Y’all never come to see me, so you don’t know anything about how I operate.” I began to remind her that someone – I, my husband, my sister … SOMEONE had been to visit her every day that week except one. She retorted, “No you haven’t!” As we got out of the car at the beauty shop, she said, “I’m frustrated,” and I told her, “I’m frustrated, too.” But I realized that arguing about this situation was not helping. Getting her to admit that someone – and often several “someones” - visits her every day was not going to make either of us feel any better.
It’s a lot like repeatedly telling Timothy he can’t touch the “pretties” that are his Aunt DebDeb’s… at some point, it is easier to put them in the closet or cabinet where he cannot reach them than to repeatedly argue over his touching them. And much the same can be said for our relationships with friends, family members and acquaintances. We have to “pick our battles,” and many of us often pick them poorly.
So we end up arguing or disagreeing over trivial, silly things that don’t matter. We get our feelings hurt over something that shouldn’t have been on our radar screen. We take things the wrong way and “make mountains out of molehills.” And all of this dishonors our role as God’s servants.
I know that my grandmother “pushes my buttons,” and she’s gotten really good at it. But I also know that I have to do better at exercising patience and holding my tongue. I must make prayerful decisions about when to speak up, and when to let something slide.
And this might be a good time for us to take stock of our lives and ask God to show us where to incorporate a lot of the lessons of these recent devos in order to serve Him better. Where and how do we need to distance ourselves from “friends” and acquaintances – and even family members – who “push our buttons?” If you can’t seem to keep from arguing with someone, then maybe you need to evaluate the time you spend with that person and see if you can make adjustments that help limit opportunities for conflict.
How can you incorporate prayer and communion with God to help diffuse troublesome situations before they even begin? Are you calling on God to guard your comments for you – to give you the right words (and the right tone of voice) to speak to others? Are you asking Him to hold your tongue when unpleasant, or argument-provoking thoughts dare to spill out in the form of a sentence? Who can mentor you in these situations? Have you asked God to direct you to wise, experienced counsel who can help you diffuse troublesome relationships – or those that have the potential for such trouble?
This is a very hard scripture passage for me to discuss, because I know I often act out of impatience… especially with my grandmother. I don’t mean to be unkind – or to argue. And sometimes, a confrontation over something like asking her to give up cooking on her stove, so that she is safe and doesn’t get burned, is inevitably going to lead to a heated discussion, at best. But there are plenty of times when I could let things go and avoid the argument… and I am working on doing so. As I’ve said many times, “I am a work in progress,” and I am grateful that we serve such a patient God will not give up on me – or any of us, if we seek His help.
Where do you need help today? Who – or what – is “pushing your buttons” and causing you to instigate needless trouble? Let’s be honest… all of this is the work of the devil, and it makes me furious to think he gets even a second of satisfaction out of my actions. So let’s agree today to keep in constant contact with God… and ask Him to guide our thoughts, our words, and our deeds. Let’s ask God to help us learn when the argument is worth it… and when we’re being stupid and senseless. Let’s pray for HUGE doses of patience and kindness… and the wisdom to be honorable servants who avoid stirring up trouble. And let’s be smart and sensible in our daily living.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Stay away from stupid and senseless arguments. These only lead to trouble, and God's servants must not be troublemakers. They must be kind to everyone, and they must be good teachers and very patient.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
Lately, it seems like I’ve had one stupid and senseless argument after another with my grandmother. And I admit, many of them are a direct result of my impatience. At almost 98 years of age, things in her world are changing rapidly, and everything I say is viewed as a direct challenge. But knowing when I should speak and when to keep quiet has been quite difficult… especially in recent years.
A few weeks ago, I was driving her to the beauty shop, and she was upset with me over something I had said. She told me, “Y’all never come to see me, so you don’t know anything about how I operate.” I began to remind her that someone – I, my husband, my sister … SOMEONE had been to visit her every day that week except one. She retorted, “No you haven’t!” As we got out of the car at the beauty shop, she said, “I’m frustrated,” and I told her, “I’m frustrated, too.” But I realized that arguing about this situation was not helping. Getting her to admit that someone – and often several “someones” - visits her every day was not going to make either of us feel any better.
It’s a lot like repeatedly telling Timothy he can’t touch the “pretties” that are his Aunt DebDeb’s… at some point, it is easier to put them in the closet or cabinet where he cannot reach them than to repeatedly argue over his touching them. And much the same can be said for our relationships with friends, family members and acquaintances. We have to “pick our battles,” and many of us often pick them poorly.
So we end up arguing or disagreeing over trivial, silly things that don’t matter. We get our feelings hurt over something that shouldn’t have been on our radar screen. We take things the wrong way and “make mountains out of molehills.” And all of this dishonors our role as God’s servants.
I know that my grandmother “pushes my buttons,” and she’s gotten really good at it. But I also know that I have to do better at exercising patience and holding my tongue. I must make prayerful decisions about when to speak up, and when to let something slide.
And this might be a good time for us to take stock of our lives and ask God to show us where to incorporate a lot of the lessons of these recent devos in order to serve Him better. Where and how do we need to distance ourselves from “friends” and acquaintances – and even family members – who “push our buttons?” If you can’t seem to keep from arguing with someone, then maybe you need to evaluate the time you spend with that person and see if you can make adjustments that help limit opportunities for conflict.
How can you incorporate prayer and communion with God to help diffuse troublesome situations before they even begin? Are you calling on God to guard your comments for you – to give you the right words (and the right tone of voice) to speak to others? Are you asking Him to hold your tongue when unpleasant, or argument-provoking thoughts dare to spill out in the form of a sentence? Who can mentor you in these situations? Have you asked God to direct you to wise, experienced counsel who can help you diffuse troublesome relationships – or those that have the potential for such trouble?
This is a very hard scripture passage for me to discuss, because I know I often act out of impatience… especially with my grandmother. I don’t mean to be unkind – or to argue. And sometimes, a confrontation over something like asking her to give up cooking on her stove, so that she is safe and doesn’t get burned, is inevitably going to lead to a heated discussion, at best. But there are plenty of times when I could let things go and avoid the argument… and I am working on doing so. As I’ve said many times, “I am a work in progress,” and I am grateful that we serve such a patient God will not give up on me – or any of us, if we seek His help.
Where do you need help today? Who – or what – is “pushing your buttons” and causing you to instigate needless trouble? Let’s be honest… all of this is the work of the devil, and it makes me furious to think he gets even a second of satisfaction out of my actions. So let’s agree today to keep in constant contact with God… and ask Him to guide our thoughts, our words, and our deeds. Let’s ask God to help us learn when the argument is worth it… and when we’re being stupid and senseless. Let’s pray for HUGE doses of patience and kindness… and the wisdom to be honorable servants who avoid stirring up trouble. And let’s be smart and sensible in our daily living.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for October 20, 2010
Proverbs 17:28
Even fools seem smart when they are quiet.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
How many times have you assumed you knew what someone else was thinking because that person didn’t say anything to give you another impression? Here’s an example… you are standing with a group of people, and one of them expresses a social opinion about a particular religious group. Many in the crowd speak up and agree with the comments, but a couple of people don’t say a word. How many people in the group do you suppose will assume that those who didn’t speak up are in agreement with what was said?
See, it’s not just what you say and how you say it. As this scripture points out, even foolish people can seem smart when they are not saying anything. Haven’t you ever heard someone say, “I thought Joe was really smart until he opened his mouth!”? We often make assumptions about a person based on their environment, their education level, social status, and more. But unless they communicate with us and express their thoughts and feelings, we can’t be certain of anything.
Why am I sharing this scripture? What importance does it have for us today? I believe that a lot of people are operating heavily in the realm of assumption. If you stand silent while others berate people of other races, religions, lifestyle choices and more, many will assume you endorse these opinions. I’m not saying you have to go on a verbal attack or start participating in public protests. But quite often, we feel like we simply don’t want to get involved… and by default, that’s exactly what we do.
Additionally, if we are silent about our faith, we not only waste opportunities to honor and serve Christ… we pretty well deny our own walk with Him. Not standing up - or speaking up - for the teachings of Jesus… failing to act and speak in a way that conveys our dependence upon the love, grace and mercy of the Holy Spirit and how He works in our lives… is as foolish as the actions and words of a person who says something ridiculous – or downright stupid.
The Christian life is a delicate balance. We must ask God to continually guide our thoughts, words, and deeds. But I would rather open my mouth and stand up for the teachings of my Lord and Savior – and risk seeming foolish – than to stand silent and have others assume I agree with something that denies my faith. I would rather stand up for the values I cherish and risk being ostracized or ridiculed than to remain silent and have those who think differently decide I agree with their opinions. The “delicate balance” comes in how I express my views. I must always remember to behave and speak in a manner that honors God and respects my relationship with Him.
Talk with God and ask Him to show you how and when to speak… and to give you the words and actions that honor your relationship with Him. And the next time you are with someone who remains visibly silent on an issue, do not assume you know what he/she is thinking or feeling. Silence can be a result of great wisdom – or Spiritual foolishness. Make sure you are listening to God as you choose your opportunities to speak up for Him … and the times when your silence is appropriate.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Even fools seem smart when they are quiet.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
How many times have you assumed you knew what someone else was thinking because that person didn’t say anything to give you another impression? Here’s an example… you are standing with a group of people, and one of them expresses a social opinion about a particular religious group. Many in the crowd speak up and agree with the comments, but a couple of people don’t say a word. How many people in the group do you suppose will assume that those who didn’t speak up are in agreement with what was said?
See, it’s not just what you say and how you say it. As this scripture points out, even foolish people can seem smart when they are not saying anything. Haven’t you ever heard someone say, “I thought Joe was really smart until he opened his mouth!”? We often make assumptions about a person based on their environment, their education level, social status, and more. But unless they communicate with us and express their thoughts and feelings, we can’t be certain of anything.
Why am I sharing this scripture? What importance does it have for us today? I believe that a lot of people are operating heavily in the realm of assumption. If you stand silent while others berate people of other races, religions, lifestyle choices and more, many will assume you endorse these opinions. I’m not saying you have to go on a verbal attack or start participating in public protests. But quite often, we feel like we simply don’t want to get involved… and by default, that’s exactly what we do.
Additionally, if we are silent about our faith, we not only waste opportunities to honor and serve Christ… we pretty well deny our own walk with Him. Not standing up - or speaking up - for the teachings of Jesus… failing to act and speak in a way that conveys our dependence upon the love, grace and mercy of the Holy Spirit and how He works in our lives… is as foolish as the actions and words of a person who says something ridiculous – or downright stupid.
The Christian life is a delicate balance. We must ask God to continually guide our thoughts, words, and deeds. But I would rather open my mouth and stand up for the teachings of my Lord and Savior – and risk seeming foolish – than to stand silent and have others assume I agree with something that denies my faith. I would rather stand up for the values I cherish and risk being ostracized or ridiculed than to remain silent and have those who think differently decide I agree with their opinions. The “delicate balance” comes in how I express my views. I must always remember to behave and speak in a manner that honors God and respects my relationship with Him.
Talk with God and ask Him to show you how and when to speak… and to give you the words and actions that honor your relationship with Him. And the next time you are with someone who remains visibly silent on an issue, do not assume you know what he/she is thinking or feeling. Silence can be a result of great wisdom – or Spiritual foolishness. Make sure you are listening to God as you choose your opportunities to speak up for Him … and the times when your silence is appropriate.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for October 18, 2010
Proverbs 21:23
Watching what you say can save you a lot of trouble.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
Recently, a friend posted a comment on Facebook about how a couple of his college professors were two of the most despised instructors on campus. This may seem like a harmless comment, but think about it … on the off chance that one of these instructors saw your post, do you really think this would make them go easier on you?
Most of us have probably shared something with someone in confidence and asked them not to repeat it … only to discover later that the person did just that. Or, we have gotten in stressful situations where we spoke nervously and said things we regretted later. The result of both is a lousy feeling.
You have no idea how God has used this scripture to speak to me … and maybe He is doing the same with you. More than ever, we are living in an age where every word we speak can be monitored, recorded, preserved for posterity, and misconstrued. In my case, I often encounter miscommunication challenges with my grandmother and her friends. I say one thing … she hears another. Or, she forgets what I told her and repeats her version of the conversation to family members and friends. In this situation, even watching what you say can still result in trouble!
For many of you, the current challenge is watching what you say online, via text and chat, and in social settings with your friends. Many innocent statements made using electronic media take on a completely different connotation when posted. Context is lost. Voice tone and inflection are not present … and the words take on a very different meaning. So “jokes” passed back and forth on a friend’s Facebook wall are seen by others and taken as an insult. A seemingly harmless rant about a college professor gets shown to him/her, and chances are good that things will be more difficult for you in that class.
Worse yet, trusting a wide circle of “friends” and sharing every detail of your personal life can lead to misunderstandings, gossip, and potentially hurtful untruths being spread. A good example is when you start dating someone. Sure, you want to get to know the person – especially if you really like him/her. But sharing your whole life history on the first few dates is probably going too far and could cause serious heartache and trouble down the road - particularly if this relationship doesn’t last.
I have been having a serious conversation with God in recent days, asking Him to help me to moderate my speech – and to give me more wisdom and discernment in this area. I am asking Him to show me how to be more cautious, less trusting, and far less naïve. I am asking for wisdom in my communication, so that my words and their meaning are not misunderstood or misconstrued by others. And I am asking that what I speak would always be the truth, spoken with love, care and respect … and exactly what HE wants me to say.
I have a long ways to go, but I know that God can perform miracles where I make messes. I know that He can accomplish things I never dreamed possible. And I know that He can guide our thoughts, our words, and how they are interpreted by others. The key is to ask for His help … and then to listen for His guidance - and take it! This honors our relationship with God, which should be motivation enough. But if this also keeps us from getting into trouble, wouldn’t you agree that it’s even more worth the effort?
Even if you don’t feel this is an issue for you, I invite you to ask God to “double-check your work” – and your thoughts and speech. Make sure He is guiding your words and keeping you in agreement with His plans … and safe from the trouble that comes from dropping your guard.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Watching what you say can save you a lot of trouble.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
Recently, a friend posted a comment on Facebook about how a couple of his college professors were two of the most despised instructors on campus. This may seem like a harmless comment, but think about it … on the off chance that one of these instructors saw your post, do you really think this would make them go easier on you?
Most of us have probably shared something with someone in confidence and asked them not to repeat it … only to discover later that the person did just that. Or, we have gotten in stressful situations where we spoke nervously and said things we regretted later. The result of both is a lousy feeling.
You have no idea how God has used this scripture to speak to me … and maybe He is doing the same with you. More than ever, we are living in an age where every word we speak can be monitored, recorded, preserved for posterity, and misconstrued. In my case, I often encounter miscommunication challenges with my grandmother and her friends. I say one thing … she hears another. Or, she forgets what I told her and repeats her version of the conversation to family members and friends. In this situation, even watching what you say can still result in trouble!
For many of you, the current challenge is watching what you say online, via text and chat, and in social settings with your friends. Many innocent statements made using electronic media take on a completely different connotation when posted. Context is lost. Voice tone and inflection are not present … and the words take on a very different meaning. So “jokes” passed back and forth on a friend’s Facebook wall are seen by others and taken as an insult. A seemingly harmless rant about a college professor gets shown to him/her, and chances are good that things will be more difficult for you in that class.
Worse yet, trusting a wide circle of “friends” and sharing every detail of your personal life can lead to misunderstandings, gossip, and potentially hurtful untruths being spread. A good example is when you start dating someone. Sure, you want to get to know the person – especially if you really like him/her. But sharing your whole life history on the first few dates is probably going too far and could cause serious heartache and trouble down the road - particularly if this relationship doesn’t last.
I have been having a serious conversation with God in recent days, asking Him to help me to moderate my speech – and to give me more wisdom and discernment in this area. I am asking Him to show me how to be more cautious, less trusting, and far less naïve. I am asking for wisdom in my communication, so that my words and their meaning are not misunderstood or misconstrued by others. And I am asking that what I speak would always be the truth, spoken with love, care and respect … and exactly what HE wants me to say.
I have a long ways to go, but I know that God can perform miracles where I make messes. I know that He can accomplish things I never dreamed possible. And I know that He can guide our thoughts, our words, and how they are interpreted by others. The key is to ask for His help … and then to listen for His guidance - and take it! This honors our relationship with God, which should be motivation enough. But if this also keeps us from getting into trouble, wouldn’t you agree that it’s even more worth the effort?
Even if you don’t feel this is an issue for you, I invite you to ask God to “double-check your work” – and your thoughts and speech. Make sure He is guiding your words and keeping you in agreement with His plans … and safe from the trouble that comes from dropping your guard.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Daily Devotional for October 16, 2010
Proverbs 15:28
Good people think before they answer, but the wicked speak evil without ever thinking.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
I watched an episode of The View recently where one of the guests was a television commentator who has written a new book. I won’t name him here, because I don’t feel he deserves further recognition. I will preface my comments by saying that I understand that controversial talk show guests sell books and boost ratings. But this man made such vile statements about certain people in relation to the events of 9.11 that two of the hosts of The View – Joy Behar and Whoopi Goldberg – stood and left the studio in protest. While they may have used language and behavior that was less than stellar themselves, their visible protest to the wicked statements of this man were the only recourse they felt possible at the moment.
Aside from the fact that what the man said was wrong – and he did somewhat apologize and rephrase his remarks – the basic intent of his statements was evil. This man didn’t necessarily think about what he was saying … at least I hope he didn’t. He didn’t give his answer to the interviewers’ questions any thought … he just spouted off an opinion and comments he thought would be popular among the viewers – or generate controversy. His comments were designed to sell books and promote his own agenda.
Do you know people who do this? Do you know people who make outlandish statements, and when called on them, defend them with comments like, “Well, it’s true,” (whether they know it is or not) or “That’s what I heard!” It’s sort of like the crazy things that are printed on those tabloids sold in the supermarket check-out aisles. You know those claims are ridiculous. You know that those words are designed to sell the rags on which they are printed. You know that the claims are hurtful, absurd, and downright evil. But people still buy these publications – and buy into the lies they contain.
We’re seeing a lot of this in e-mails about the state of our country, politics and politicians, and personal lifestyle choices. We’re hearing a lot of this on those “comedy” shows on cable television. Sadly, we’ve elevated some of those “comedians” to the status of “expert analyst” and begun to actually listen to their opinions. And worse yet, we’re learning from them in many cases – and beginning to speak without thinking, just as they do.
It’s time for us to “get a grip” – on the hand of Jesus. It’s time for us to firmly root ourselves in the word of God and time spent in His presence … to ask for wisdom, discernment, patience and a protective cover over our mouths as we speak. We need to ask God to protect us from the wicked speech and evil thinking of others as Satan attempts to permeate our mind and our heart with it. We should be busy every day asking God to fill us with His love, grace, mercy, kindness, and peace … and to control our every thought and word accordingly.
Quite frankly, more of us need to stand and walk out of the room (albeit quietly and without profanity) when we are confronted with the evil speech of others. At best, we should become confident in the presence of the Holy Spirit in our hearts and lovingly let the person speaking know that we do not agree. I have had to say to others, “I do not agree with you on this,” or “We will have to agree to disagree on this subject and talk about something else.” We do not have to tolerate evil or wicked speech in our presence, but we cannot descend to the level of such talk in an effort to confront it.
Ask God to guide your thoughts and your speech. Ask Him to send the Holy Spirit to fill your heart, guide and protect you as you go about your day. And pray for those who speak evil without thinking. Ask God to change their hearts and minds, to fill them with His presence and goodness … and to give each of us loving, positive thoughts and words to share with others.
©2010 Debbie Robus
Good people think before they answer, but the wicked speak evil without ever thinking.
Scripture taken from the Contemporary English Version © 1991,1992, 1995 by American Bible Society, Used by Permission.
I watched an episode of The View recently where one of the guests was a television commentator who has written a new book. I won’t name him here, because I don’t feel he deserves further recognition. I will preface my comments by saying that I understand that controversial talk show guests sell books and boost ratings. But this man made such vile statements about certain people in relation to the events of 9.11 that two of the hosts of The View – Joy Behar and Whoopi Goldberg – stood and left the studio in protest. While they may have used language and behavior that was less than stellar themselves, their visible protest to the wicked statements of this man were the only recourse they felt possible at the moment.
Aside from the fact that what the man said was wrong – and he did somewhat apologize and rephrase his remarks – the basic intent of his statements was evil. This man didn’t necessarily think about what he was saying … at least I hope he didn’t. He didn’t give his answer to the interviewers’ questions any thought … he just spouted off an opinion and comments he thought would be popular among the viewers – or generate controversy. His comments were designed to sell books and promote his own agenda.
Do you know people who do this? Do you know people who make outlandish statements, and when called on them, defend them with comments like, “Well, it’s true,” (whether they know it is or not) or “That’s what I heard!” It’s sort of like the crazy things that are printed on those tabloids sold in the supermarket check-out aisles. You know those claims are ridiculous. You know that those words are designed to sell the rags on which they are printed. You know that the claims are hurtful, absurd, and downright evil. But people still buy these publications – and buy into the lies they contain.
We’re seeing a lot of this in e-mails about the state of our country, politics and politicians, and personal lifestyle choices. We’re hearing a lot of this on those “comedy” shows on cable television. Sadly, we’ve elevated some of those “comedians” to the status of “expert analyst” and begun to actually listen to their opinions. And worse yet, we’re learning from them in many cases – and beginning to speak without thinking, just as they do.
It’s time for us to “get a grip” – on the hand of Jesus. It’s time for us to firmly root ourselves in the word of God and time spent in His presence … to ask for wisdom, discernment, patience and a protective cover over our mouths as we speak. We need to ask God to protect us from the wicked speech and evil thinking of others as Satan attempts to permeate our mind and our heart with it. We should be busy every day asking God to fill us with His love, grace, mercy, kindness, and peace … and to control our every thought and word accordingly.
Quite frankly, more of us need to stand and walk out of the room (albeit quietly and without profanity) when we are confronted with the evil speech of others. At best, we should become confident in the presence of the Holy Spirit in our hearts and lovingly let the person speaking know that we do not agree. I have had to say to others, “I do not agree with you on this,” or “We will have to agree to disagree on this subject and talk about something else.” We do not have to tolerate evil or wicked speech in our presence, but we cannot descend to the level of such talk in an effort to confront it.
Ask God to guide your thoughts and your speech. Ask Him to send the Holy Spirit to fill your heart, guide and protect you as you go about your day. And pray for those who speak evil without thinking. Ask God to change their hearts and minds, to fill them with His presence and goodness … and to give each of us loving, positive thoughts and words to share with others.
©2010 Debbie Robus
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